i have a friend who's x will do anything to get her back. he has even gone through the extremes of harming her or a friend of hers. we got the police involved, but then he left town. he still comes back on the weekends and drives by her and my house hoping to see one of us.
2007-02-15 07:29:45 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
1. Put a recorder on your phone (check legality in your state).
2. Carry a mini-recorder you can trigger any time he talks to you personally (or on your cell phone).
3. Keep a log of every appearance, every call.
4. Buy or borrow a small digital camera that puts the date & time on each picture. Every time you see him or his car, get a picture.
When you have enough evidence, see if the police will help. Otherwise you may need to see a lawyer (or in some places just the court clerk) about getting a restraining order.
2007-02-15 07:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by RH Arizona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the good news is on this one is so far you've done the right thing by contacting the police. No nobody wants or deserves to live in fear. Be sure to document EVERYTHING that happens, has happened or been said, keep dates and possible times. The police also have their records that they keep. If he's THAT unstable, something or someone somewhere is going to happen to show him he needs to stop or get some kind of help. Thankfully NOTHING lasts forever. I'm dealing with that myself, my boyfriend's exgirlfriend won't leave him alone or any of his friends etc...the police have gotten involved and so far that's helped. But the one who does the stalking has limited choices. They either wind up in jail; move away or just go away either willingingly or not. I've kept lots of documentation including legal documentation, and trust me, things don't look good for this person =) So good look and keep me posted!
2007-02-15 16:08:37 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, one thing you can do is always follow up with a restraining order and if you already have one, following up with the police with this information will make it look even better on paper and by law that you guys took all of the necessary "Lawful" actions. If anything ever did come up!.
Other than that get a gaurd dog, an alarm and/or take self defense classes.
I hope that this information is helpful to you!!
Take care & Be safe!!
2007-02-15 15:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Just My Thoughts... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Father or Brother to go after the creep? This is what's wrong with our society today. A restraining order will do squat. Hundreds of women are killed by nut cases like this every year who have restraining orders. Get one anyway at least the cops can arrest him then. Document everything he does. Take photos if you see his car. SUE him in civil court.
2007-02-15 15:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order. Tell the cops whats going on.
2007-02-15 15:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by gdf888 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
program speed dial 9 1 1
leave dna sample in fridge with a note just in case
move outta town
2007-02-15 15:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she better get a retraining order...trust me i ve been through it'
this guy is crazy and u dont know what his next move may be
get the cops involved some more.. and tell her to be aware of your surroundings.. try to have someone with her at all times...
take care
2007-02-15 15:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by msconfused 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a restraining order if you can, move, change phone numbers. Talk to law inforcement again. Sorry you have to go through this, good luck.
2007-02-15 15:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by shelb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your friend will just have to go and take some boxing lessons and kick his a** one day then I bet you he won't come back
2007-02-15 15:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by Jo3-Jo3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him with a guy around.
Maybe even pay somebody to harm him.
yeah that would probably be the best thing to do.
2007-02-15 15:35:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋