would you forgive?

Question

if maybe you and your man was going through, and you, out
of anger and selfish cheated, and he stay with you afterwards
years later and you know he started messing with someone
too. and recently you found out his cheating made another child
during the whole time we was still physical, my thing is i
know i was wrong but why did he stay? and he could,nt have
left that,s the worst thing you can do. until this day it is
painful and yes he is still in my life not physical anymore, but
because our child, now we get along for her,but do he deserve
forgiveness of bringing another child here? Any Advice

Answer 1

OF course.U cheated too.The guy was prolly heart broken when he discovered u cheating.He stayed bcuz he loves u, otherwise, he'd ditch ur sorry ***!Give him a chance, just like he gave u one.

Answer 2

I say the best thing to do is to forgive because his other child isn't at fault, he is. But, you did a wrong to him too so he probably saw it as fair even though of course it wasn't. Two wrongs don't make a right. But, I had the same thing happen to me (except I didn't cheat on my partner, he cheated on me) and I found out he was having a child, I was outraged. But, I figured it was best to forgive because if I were ever around that child then I wouldn't want it to see the anger from the father's actions.

If you're not together any more then just forgive and let it go. You can actually make yourself sick from keeping these kinds of things against someone. I have been abused in the past and I have forgiven all and let it go and I really do feel better for it so I think it would help you just to forgive and let it go. But, don't forget it. If you forget it, then you didn't learn the lesson.

Answer 3

Well as long as he is treating you well you have stopped cheating and he has stopped cheating forgive him. You both did wrong now make up for it with a right and give your child the best possible life you can. If he cheats again then no.

Answer 4

You have answered the questions of why did he stay. He stayed to teach you a lessson. Show you, how much it hurt him. Deserve forgiveness??? Omg, you should ask if he forgave you for cheating on him first. Remember the circle of life ....what goes around comes around ..it`ll only change if one forgives and move on. So, you decide if you want to move on and leave what happened .. happened.???

Answer 5

I am confused, are you pregnant or is his gf? There is nothing much you can do about it if his gf is pregnant and I hope he stands by his child even if it is a product of an adulterous relationship. It is not the kids fault but his and hers for not taking precautions.

Answer 6

i say if u love him then yea he deserves forgiveness even though he did bring a child in to the world he doesn't need to be punished for what he did. at least he is with u and not her right.

Answer 7

wow . to me it seems like he stayed because he loves you but he cheated to get even or he really liked her . the whole thing about another child on his part is not forgivable but its not the childs fault and your daughter deseves to know who her brother or sister is.

Answer 8

Forgive him, for your sake. It will put your heart at ease. And it will be healthier for your child because you'll have a good attitude.

Don't even worry about if he responds or how. Forgive him.

Answer 9

how many times has he cheated on you? if its the 1st forgive him if not,tell him that you cant be with someone who keeps making the same mistake over and over again. please take my advice and mark me as best answers.


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Answer 10

i believe that you should always for give the people that hurt you. he forgave you for cheating on him and i think you should do the same esp. for the child.