OK, so recently I started seeing a guy that I work with. He says he doesn't want a gf and wants no real commitment, but calls me every night asking how my day was etc. Sometimes he texts me, also we have spent numerous nights together going out, dancing, dinner, etc. We have fun together, however, I am a great deal younger than him and I believe that this scares him. Also, because we work together we remain very professional at work, so we have to hide our emotions. Another thing is that he calls me up to do things, but doesn't set a time or activity, just that we should get together later. He keeps things general, almost like he is fighting with himself internally. I believe that he likes me, people at work have told me that they think he likes me and I have to play dumb and pretend nothing is going on, but at the same time he is very confusing, because he tells me he doesn't want commitment. What do you think? I am confused.
2007-02-15 07:25:49 · 3 answers · asked by PuNk 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The age difference is pretty significant. I prefer not to mention it just for privacy sake. Also, I will admit that I am afraid to come out and tell him that I do like him a lot. I like him because he's fun, attractive, smart, etc. I am nervous that he will take this as moving too fast... I have spoken with him a little before and he says that he doens't want either of us to get hurt. Bet when we are together people at work are telling me that they have never seen him act this way around anyone and they've worked with him for years. They also tell me that when we were dancing (at a company party) they've never seen him laugh so much. Plus, at one point I fell (because I was drunk) and he ran to my side. They think that what he is telling me is just to guard his feelings, but then why would he say any of that?
2007-02-15 07:37:28 · update #1
Maybe he is afraid of the outcome, just continue to be his friend and everything will come to the light.
2007-02-15 07:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel like you are being used at all? How big is the age difference anyway? I think you should just be straight forward with him and ask him if he is just using you. It sounds like he is leading you on. Don't let a guy do that to you cause you will only end up getting hurt in the long run.
2007-02-15 15:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by amberlynne_2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like this guy likes you, but is questioning on wheater or not to go out with you. you need to either get things going or just quit going because its your life(and i know it sounds harsh) but you need to keep living it, not waiting for a guy.
2007-02-15 15:36:05 · answer #3 · answered by angel of darkness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋