I give my children 3 chances and then I whip them?

Question

If my children are yelling or anything that is bad I give them 3 warning and then I rush them to the bathrooms pull their pants and underwear down an tear I mean just tear their butts up. I do not believe in being disrespected by my children is that bad?

i did not mean to say tear up I meant to say i give them 2 or 3 pats on the butt ok im sorry i sounded to dramatic all you people who take is so seriously geez

by the way this is my friend asking this question because she has no computer not me the 15 year old pregnant girl I do not believe in spanking bare butts

Answer 1

Imagine when you go to work and your boss tells you not to do something you want to.He warns you 3 times and then he whips you on your naked butt.Is it bad?

Answer 2

As long as your punishment is not too harsh to the point it is harming them physically. You need to be sure your doling out dicipline with control rather than letting your emotions take over. Thats how folks get into trouble. Contrary to Liberal think, a good spanking is very healthy if its justified and given with good reason and correctly. Only you can determine if your getting out of control during the punishment. If you are, maybe thats why you were bothered enough to ask if it was OK. You also need to communicate with the kids. They need to be told exactly what is expected of them at all times. You will have to do this repeatedly until they learn. Start with smaller punishments like time outs, or being seperated in their room for an hour. Just don't go off and start wailing at every infraction without teaching them what they did wrong and what is expected of them. Its all a learning process.

Answer 3

I agree. Warning first and then spanking. They won't take you seriously if they know that your warnings have no meaning to them. Then they will disrespect you and doesn't look at you as a person who has authority. If they do it constantly, then you need to give them a more harsh warning or your "pats" aren't harsh enough to show them that you mean business.

Remember, spanking should only be use for extreme problems, such as swearing and they know what it means (some kids just repeat what they hear and not understand the term). Or have violent tantrums.

Answer 4

Wrong. Yep, real bad. Child will play. Send them outside if they get that loud. When they are in the house they can play but their voices must also reflect that they are in the house. But it all goes back to the parents. You must yell to be heard. I don't raise my voice at all!!!! Not to be heard, when I talk they listen. When they went outside to play the rules were they must be where I could see them. Or ask for permission to go else where. If I whistled they better hear me and come home immediately. Everybody is in the house when the street lights come on. Chores are completed before they go outside and homework from chores. We all sit down to supper at 6. It was a regular routine every day, no surprises if we did something different, we talked about it and the dinner table. Pretty tame. Good luck.

Answer 5

The fact that you even asked this question suggests you feel guilty and wrong. How old are these children? Why must you 'tear up their naked butts'? A whack on the covered bottom after several warnings can be considered discipline, but it sounds like you're being abusive...and you know it.

Answer 6

I was spanked, and absolutely feared and respected my parents. I spank mine occasionaly, only when they're exceptionally naughty. I really believe that children need a little fear to keep them in line. But don't spank out of anger! Thats borderline abuse. A different, more effective punishment is something I call "constructive time out". Give them something to do. Like write up to 100, or seperate/organize something (like blocks). It gives you both time to calm down, and it makes the child feel like he/she accomplished something.

Answer 7

Ok here s the thing kids hate it when parents do that but soon (like me) kids will grow older and realize that what you did is just to make them do the right thing so people wont think they are crazy and not disiplined . Keep up everything your doing also u might want to try grounding them also not just whipping them.
try both

Answer 8

Why should your children respect you!!!! You don't respect them!!!! All your doing is creating angry children with NO SELF ESTEEM!! You really need to get help and take some parenting classes!! You have issues! How would you feel if you did something bad at work and someone took you outside and beat the crap out of you?? All it would do is make you more angry and defiant!! Ta Da, that is why you have children that "disrespect you"!!

Answer 9

A couple of hours ago you were 15 and pregnant. She said earlier she was 15 years old and might be pregnant.

Answer 10

hitting them is just telling them is ok to hit others ..make a time out area for them like a chair or a matt on the floor. and make them do time outs hitting is not such a good thing anymore it mite make them worse

Answer 11

Umm.. that would be classified as child abuse. I don't think you'll be teaching them anything by doing that except for making them afraid of you. You could cause psychological damage as well as the physical damages you've already inflicted. They're children and they don't know any better. They're supposed to be loud and playful. Don't take away their childhood away too soon.