OKAY.... So there's this guy who likes me (we're both 13) and I don't like him back. I guess I just like to be liked. Does that make sense? Anyway, he is really shy, so he won't ask me to dance at any of our school dances. I can just tell he likes me, don't ask me how--it's a girl's intuition. So, I don't like him, but for some reason, I keep flirting with him. I don't know why I am, because I don't like him, and we're not going to the same high school next year, so it's not like I'm going to be seeing him again. Am I being really mean to flirt with him if I'm not interested? I just want some advice. No rude words please.
2007-02-15 07:11:59 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay--Flyguy, Sophia, and Inotachi-whatever, STOP. Okay? I'm not dating him, I'm not being slutty, I am just being cute and flirty. I need advice, NOT CRITISISM or bad websites. Okay? Okay.
2007-02-15 07:20:19 · update #1
No, that's part of growing up.
I flirt with people I'm not attracted to all the time, it's a pretty normal thing to do.
Of course you like to be liked-everyone does, it makes you feel attractive.
Don't worry that your being mean, your just learning how to express yourself in different ways. Your only 13, I guarentee your not going to ruin him for life, or longer than the school year lasts.
2007-02-15 07:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by static_nerdling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not really being rude, your 13, and at any age married or not. It is nice to be noticed when you aren't noticed a lot. Are you sure you don't like him, even a little? If your worried about him asking you to dance and your looking in the future at what will come. I suggest you really look at what is good and bad about him, make a list. WHY don't you like him? And if it all comes out right, you could answer your own question if you have more good about him then bad maybe that you really do like him! Some guys are just shy and you can since they like you, but won't budge until you do. Maybe your best approach is to talk to him alone, ask him to walk with you home or something... Get to know him....
I love nerds now, married for 6 amazing years, 30 yrs old, He wasn't what I thought my type was either but now he is the only thing in the world! Your still young! No harm in seeing what comes of it.
Good luck!
2007-02-15 07:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by AmieAnn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is mean to flirt, and most girls your age enjoy the attention. I know, my daughter is 13 also. I will give you the same advice I give her. A little harmless flirting is okay, but be careful not to build his hopes up. It will hurt him and give you a bad reputation. Talk to him, be nice, but be careful how far you go with the flirting. Think about how you would feel if the roles were reversed. If you liked a boy and he flirted with you, then you found out he doesn't really like you, he just liked getting your attention. Be careful and thoughtful when you deal with other peoples feelings.
2007-02-15 07:17:12 · answer #3 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ask for the truth, but no rude words. OK. The truth is you already know what your doing is wrong or you wouldn't be asking about it. Leave the poor boy alone. You are only going to make his life more miserable. Then take some time to reevaluate your priorities. If you only like to flirt when you know it will eventually hurt someone, you need to grow up.
2007-02-15 07:16:56 · answer #4 · answered by fly guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he the only one who is flirting with you? If so, perhaps it is just convenient, interesting and safe. At 13, you are probably still experimenting with your "powers" of flirtation and you just feel more comfortable knowing that someone already likes you.
If you don't feel meanness in your heart when you do this, that's a good sign. If he is shy, he probably enjoys your flirtation.. Just make sure you keep a balance. If your powers of flirtation are strong, don't get him "intoxicated". That's just inviting problems.
If you don't flirt with guys, you may have desires for than you may be avoiding learning how to pursue things that matter.
2007-02-15 07:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by woodmark52 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you belive that he likes you, and you don't like him, but you're behaving in a way that makes him *think* you do... that's teasing, and leading him on. He's already shy and introverted, he doesn't need a broken heart on top of it.
My advice is to practice your skills on someone you actually like, and let the one you don't care for have space to get over any crush he's been feeling.
2007-02-15 07:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 19 now i finished school.But when i was in high school i would do the same thing guys i didn't like would flirt with me and i would do the same....It's a girl thing im sure most of us do it.But i guess it's kida mean to lead a guy on if u have no interest in him. Maybe just do it for a bit longer lol shhhh then stop before it goes to far.;)
2007-02-15 07:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're just playing around with being attracted to boys, and yes it's really normal.
This is a really confusing time, I remember. I would try to not flirt with him so he doesn't get the wrong idea and get hurt.
2007-02-15 07:15:24 · answer #8 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you flirting with him is a bad thing unless you are in a relationship then it could be a bad thing but other wise its just something a gurl does gurls flirt its are instinct don't worry your really not being mean just try to keep it at a sturdy level after all you might end up developing feelings for him lol
2007-02-15 07:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are being mean.
you know you are!!
you just have to decide to be nice and lay off of him. if he's a nice guy be nice to him, but if you don't even like talking to him, then just stop.
sounds like you are just creating drama.
you wouldn't want some guy to flirt with you and then tell everyone he wasn't interested at all. it's just rude.
2007-02-15 07:16:05 · answer #10 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋