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WOMEN ONLY!!! What would you do? Was I to harsh? My Husband, mother in law, & I were all in the livingroom. My MIL (mother in law) told my husband our daughter is not his...that supposedly I told her sisters/nieces 2 1/2 years ago when I was pregnant that he wasn't the father. Lie #1. Then she told him while she sits on the couch i call my sons dad everyday & tell him I love him in front of her. LIE #2. Then she tells me she hates my son. Then she tells me & my husband she has been trying for the past 2 years to get divorced. Then she says she sits there while I talk to her sisters/nieces asking them ?s about her & I talk about her. LIE #3. Then she says my son is a brat, is no good, & says he kicks her bed each morning just to wake her up.LIE #4. What would you do? How would you react? I told her she had to leave. Yes I kicked her A** out. My husbands reaction was "she was mad and said it all out of anger". But why would a grown women bring her grand daughter in all this?

2007-02-15 07:10:00 · 18 answers · asked by { Me } 2 in Family & Relationships Family

She said she didn't care if she ever saw her again because she wasn't her sons. she told my husband to his face "you are F***en stupid to believe that she is yours" Funny because she looks just like him. Seriously. She said it didn't matter if she looked like him she still isn't his and she knows for a fact. LIE My husband said she was mad & said things out of anger. She also told him "David...tell her the truth...tell her how you tell me you don't love her and you married her out of spite" what ever that means. He told her "thats not true stop saying that". I just simply told her "your a** is gone NOW & you are never welcomed back in my home for all the lying and causing so many problems". All this took place 2 days before our anni. In front of her I called her sisters & nieces to ask them about her lie. They were so mad & they tried talking to her but she refused to get on the phone. I don't want her here again and never will she see my kids again. am I being to harsh?

2007-02-15 07:20:28 · update #1

Oh she doesn't like me because she says "my husband would have had a better life had he marry a white woman". Then she doesn't like that I argue with her son because he is what she calls "PERFECT". She doesn't like my because when my daughter was born she wanted to come stay with us for a few weeks and I asked her to wait 2 weeks after my daughter was born so I could have some alone time with my baby...After I told her this she told her whole family that I said she can't see my daughter. She doesn't like me because I don't believe how she says people cast evil spells on my baby and I don't spell proof my home. Also so doesn't like my becasue I won't let her answer my daughter when she says MOMMA. Im her mom damn it. She also doesn't like me because she says no one is good enough for her son. and I won't let her control my house hold. This woman just got kicked our of her daughter home and her own mothers home. She doesn't have a home of her own or a job. Shes a freeloader

2007-02-15 07:25:52 · update #2

One last detail. she tells my daughter that I am a witch, a bad mom, and a mean mom. Why would I trust her to be near her. I am not telling my husband he can't see his mom, not to talk to her, or not to love her I simply don't want her in my home, near my kids or ever near me. I think thats about it.

2007-02-15 08:35:47 · update #3

18 answers

I don't think there is room in anyone's life for someone like that. I think that you have every right to tell her to stay away from your family. I also think that you and your husband need to talk about all of the things she is saying. Does he believe her? Will he support you if you want nothing to do with her? Does he see how much it hurts you and how it is hurting your relationship with him and your kids? If he isn't fully supporting you then you need to look at your relationship. I know that she is his mom but he has chosen to be with you for the rest of your lives. He shouldn't be letting anyone disrespect you.

You owe it to yourself and your family to put a stop to this. No one should be disrespected like that. If your children see people treating you like that and you don't stop it, they will learn that it is okay to treat you the same way.

2007-02-15 08:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by jessygirl 1 · 1 0

Oh wow that woman is nutsos for real!!. I have never heard of a grown woman acting that way ever thats just immature. I hate it when people bring kids into things thats just not right kids dont know about anything and dont have anything to do with it. I think your husband needs to get his mom some help and fast she cant be a happy person at all and thats kindda sad. No your not over reacting about kicking her out I would have too you dont need to deal with the sortta thing at all dont feel bad about that. I understand why you would not want her to see your kids anymore but as long as she is not saying things to them or doing things in front of them and they have no clue what it is going on between all of you then it would be best to still let her see the kids if she wants because thats just hurting the kids if they really love her and miss her and thats not fair to them at all. But if she doing things in front of them or telling them things then no dont let her be around them and let her know that is why. Maybe she will get the help she needs and relize how she is being is not healthy for her or anyone elese and she can be a good mother n law. Have your husband talk with her about this matter and see what happens if she wont do anything about it then Id say to not contact her untill she does. Good luck and sorry u half to deal with this.

2007-02-15 16:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0 0

I've been through some drama like this in my own relationship, and I've been wondering for almost 4 years what I should do about it. Unlike me, however, it sounds like you've got some allies in this situation, like the sisters and nieces (my fiance seems to be the only one who's on my side, and I guess his is the only support that matters anyways). At any rate, you were completely justified in doing what you did. I would have done the exact same thing. I wouldn't ever consider letting her come back until she got back on the medication and brought a chaperone with her (because obviously she doesn't know how to act like an adult herself). No one acts like she did out of anger. She's got internal issues of her own, and she just wants to drag everyone down into the same state of delusion that she is suffering from. Thankfully, it doesn't look like it worked. If it had worked on my fiance, he'd be out the door, too. However, it sounds like he knows that his mother has mental problems, and he knows that he is your daughter's father. Just try not to let it get to you. It sounds like she just wants to stir up trouble.

2007-02-15 16:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0 0

She felt that she wasn't the center of attention anymore with her son and now she desperate in a throat slashing type way. You should talk to her and find out what's wrong, no matter how much you hate each other, maybe even plant a recording device on yourself for proof of what she said. So in case everyone doesn't believe you, you have proof. She probably brought your son into it (just like all the lies) to see you and your husband split up. She wants her son to have nothing to do with you because, to put it in her point of view, she despises you and hates your guts and wants you out of her family and her life, and to have her son back in her attention. The only way you can fix things is to have everyone catch her in the act of her deceit and lies in order to have things be o.k. between you and you husband.

2007-02-15 15:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by SuNDeViL 2 · 0 0

Some people are just malicious, spiteful, and hate people that are happy or drama free. They feel that they need to stir the pot a little. She is one of those people. You did good with kicking her out - but she has planted seeds in your husbands head that you need to make sure are not planted... the best thing to do is to take care of your children, husband, and your relationship. The next time she pulls something like that just laugh and say it is absurd and that she needs to stop talking crazy talk.

2007-02-15 15:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 4 · 0 0

OH noooo, you are dealing with a crazy woman!! I am so sorry, but you know what you need to rid her out of the both of you guys relationship....you need to sit down and ask her why she is doing that, then sit down with your husband...geeezz, Im so sorry, but you need to get that negative energy away from you and your family, somehow, someway, talking would be your best bet, if your husband loves you so much he will understand.

2007-02-15 15:15:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Hun, sounds like the woman is insane. Literally... something not wired right upstairs. And it also sounds like your H knows what she says is all a load of hooey. So at least you're not in a position to have to defend yourself to him.

You can't tell your H not to see his own mother any more. The best you can do is limit her toxic exposure to your kids and to yourself. (No need for them to deal with that poison.)

2007-02-15 15:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by selena n 4 · 0 0

she sounds a bit loopy to me the best thing you can do for your family is keep away from the daft woman I'm wondering tho if shes going a bit funny do you think she might need seriously to see a doc and no i don't think you were too harsh i would have done the same in your position x

2007-02-15 15:21:42 · answer #8 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0 0

You go girl!You were right to kick her a** out! She has no right to disrespect you or your daughter in your own home. She should stop spreading lies about you and mind her own buisness. She is stupid and she needs to get a life and stop creating drama. Tell her to watch Maury if she wants drama.

2007-02-15 15:36:07 · answer #9 · answered by sanj 3 · 0 0

Nope- Someone has to look out for your family. Your kids shouldn't have to be subjected to that kind of person if she has the potential to say things that would harm them emotionally.
Your house- your rules.

2007-02-15 15:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by juicy13500 3 · 3 0

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