I know I asked this earlier and got alot of good answers. Thought I should add some more detail.
Everything was going fine, then monday she told me that she wanted some time to think. She got out of a 7 year abusive realationship mid last year. We started dating about 6-8 months after that.
Does she realy just need some time or is there no chance in hell of us getting back together.
Just curios on what I should do or not do.
Thanks for the help
She told me she couldn't wait for Valentines day cause she hasn't had a good one. Everything was good last week, she was excited and couldn't wait to see what I got her. Well As I said above we broke up monday.
Also was it a good move to go ahead and send her flowers on valentines day.
When would be a good time to ask her if she ready to start dating again, (if she wants).
2007-02-15 07:09:41 · 6 answers · asked by striderknight2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wasn't an *** this weekend either.
2007-02-15 07:10:20 · update #1
She may need some time coming out of such an abusive relationship, sometimes it makes it hard for you to trust someone again in that way. I think that it would be best to let her tell you when she is ready to date again, you dont wanna seem like your pushing it or anything. The flowers being sent I think was sweet. The best thing I think is just give her some space right now until she comes to you and if thats really what it is she will come to you when she is ready, if not it may be something else.
2007-02-15 07:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by xcathy23x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has been hurt before and is afraid to be hurt again. She may have also been scared to have another bad Valentine's Day. I think it was a good idea to send her flowers. I'm sure they reminded her that you are thinking about her. I would let her know that you care for her very much and have no intention of ever hurting her. Tell her that you understand if she needs some time and you will be respectful of that. Let her know that you will be there for her when she is ready to talk. If you truly feel strongly about her you will understand that she has been through some tough times. I know, from experience, that it takes time to relearn that not every guy is a bad guy and not every guy is going to hurt you. You sound like a good guy and I'm sure after giving her some time to think, she will figure that out. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 15:18:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 year abusive relationship. Why did she stick around so long. Most girls who have gone through that type of turmoil are more than happy to find a guy who loves them and treats them with dignity and respect. It appears that initially she saw that in you. But some element is missing here. Any time someone "needs time" is a pretty strong signal that someone is backpaddling. Sending flowers was thoughtful. Now, give her a couple of weeks to show some sort of genuine interest in going forward. Right now she has you on the "pause" button. She may never hit "play", so go on with your life because it sounds like she has some issues .
2007-02-15 15:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wooing her could never hurt if you want to be with her... go ahead and send her flowers with a little message like - just thinking about you or something like that. NOT to heavy or lovey.
2007-02-15 15:14:49 · answer #4 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be her friend and help her get that idea out that every guy is like that because to me it seems that she thinks that.
2007-02-15 15:15:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to ask her out again...if she ever wants to she will come back on her own.
2007-02-15 15:15:59 · answer #6 · answered by Hummingbird 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋