is a 61 year old too old for a 20 year old???

Question

a real gentlemen likes me a lot... he's very successfull, well mannered... and a lot of girls in their twenties likes him... i don't really like him yet but is a possibility... here's the problem he's 61... what should i do??? what would you think if you saw us in public together???

Answer 1

well i like them 5-yrs.. older in my age range...but to each's own..
but just check around first for guys your age before
you decide to face this challenge...ok.

Answer 2

Since you are both over the age of 18, you two can legally date and persue a romantic relationship and there is nothing your family, friends or anyone else can do about it.

That being said. Sixty-one years old is a little too old for a 20 year old on several fronts. One is that people who are that far apart in age differences seldom have anything in common. The needs, wants, and desires for a 61-year old is going to differ from that of a 20 year old.

Another issue to consider is whether or not he desires you on a personal level and not because he wants a "trophy wife". You also need to realize also is that he is almost old enough to be your grandfather. How much of a life together are you going to have? When you turn 30, he will be 71. When you turn 40, he will be 81. That is assuming he is still alive and in good health by then.

Best thing you can do for yourself is find somone closer to your age or at least no more than 15 years age difference.

Answer 3

I would think it was a bit strange, but really you should do what you want and not cxare what others think. By the way, I wonder of all these people giving you heat for this: what would be your answer if this question was a 61 year old man asking about a 20 year old? Probably "go for it", LOL!

Answer 4

I know from first hand experience that there is a shortage of real gentlemen in the below 40 set, but the age difference is too great. What do you have in common, will he go clubbing with you if you want to go? Is he interested in starting a family? About the time you really start to hit your stride in life, he will be needing geriatric care. Think seriously before you get involved, I think you already know the answer to this one. He is way too old for you. Not because you aren't mature enough for him, but because you are in VERY different places in your life. Keep looking, there is a good one out there for you.

Answer 5

I think you would be happier in the long run with someone your own age. Yes, this man probably has money and he can wine and dine you and take you to exciting places. However, in the long run -- would you be happy with the older man for a long term relationship? Do you have a lot to talk about with him. Do you have a thick enough skin to withstand everyone being so critical? Look at how mean and critical people are being toward you on this board. That's how tough it would be on you in the real world. I wouldn't want to be stared at constantly with mean, nosey people whispering crap about me and my man. It would be hard to take.

You are 20 and have your whole life ahead of you. You deserve the best by finding someone in your own age group, who will grow to success with you. Plus, guys in their 20s are so hot!

This man can only be after one thing and he may hurt you, so I would advise you to just stay away from this relationship.

However, good luck to you with whatever you decide. I'm sure you will make the right choice either way.

Answer 6

I wouldn't really think much of it, it's none of my business, but if you don't really like him, you need to stay away. You mentioned that he's "very successful and well mannered". So was Anna Nicole Smith's 89 year old husband, and she didn't like him either, but he was "successful", as in he had a LOT of money. It's not fair to him to think only in terms of manners and money, and if you go into a relationship with this older gent you'll wind up either breaking it off or marrying only for money, possible having affairs later on with men your age on the side because you will miss the companionship of someone closer to your age. Leave the guy alone, and someone should convince him to go after women closer to his age.

Answer 7

yes a 61 year old is to old for a 20 year old. that is like dating your grandfather and yes if you were out in public people would think that as well, but they also would think of you as nothing more than a gold digger just out cause of the old man's money, you would be better served to leave it alone and date your own age group

Answer 8

Is that you 'Anna Nicole'?! Is it really you? No....then maybe an 'anna nichole' wannabe? LOL If you're serious about this question, and not just posing it for kicks I hope it works out for you. I wonder how much time you'll have to enjoy life before you're simply being a nursemaid to an elderly man. I'd think you had 'grandpa issues' if I saw you together...that is if I didn't assume you were his grand-daughter. Have you met his chn. and grand-chn yet---that should be interesting.

Answer 9

Seriously he is old enough to be your grandfather!! Yuck! Stick to someone your own age or if you want an older man go for someone in his late 20s early 30s...that I can understand but 61?? hmmmmmmmmm

Answer 10

To be honest I would assume he was your father unless you were tongue snogging in public. I think the fact you have asked this question means you are doubting this is a good idea. Think about it, your parents are probably younger than this guy. If you do decide to date him then be prepared to defend your relationship every time you step through the door. Is that what you really want?

Answer 11

do whatever you want...but more than likely, people will probably think you're a 'golddigger', but hey, the dude is 61, how he spends his money is his own choice. Hell, I hope when I'm 61, I'm bangin' 20 year olds.