Like this one person i know complains how she only sees her boyfriend once a week, and that she couldn't see him for valentines day it was so aweful. I told her i wouuld kill to see my boyfriend like once every few months....let alone once a week. I probably won't see him for a while*he's in the army*
2007-02-15 06:54:52 · 6 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
i know she has feelings i'm not trying to make her feel bad or anything like that...
she's in college and its like an hour away from where her boyfriend's at ....
and i know there's other people worst off than i am with my boyfriend....
2007-02-15 07:36:55 · update #1
Some people are too self-centered to see the good around them...and will never be fulfilled. Others such as yourself see things from a different perspective and take and cherish genuine precious moments.
Hang in there...
2007-02-15 07:01:01 · answer #1 · answered by IwntYrHd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut the lady a little slack! This is a common conversation tic, a way some people have of trying to draw other people into conversing about their lives and situations. They may thoughtlessly not realize that other people don't have it as good as they do, or don't like hearing about their pseudo-complaints: or they may honestly not care what you think, in which case they aren't worth getting het up about. Just thinking of the sounds they make as harmless background noise.
Word to the wise: if you try to top them or shut them up by using their "complaint" as an opportunity to let the world know how bad you have it, then you run the risk of reading a posting here that will go something like this: "There's this one person I know who whenever I talk about my boyfriend and how infrequently I get to see him, complains about how she wishes she had it that bad because her boyfriend is in the army and she can only see him every few months. I feel sorry for her but it feels like she's saying the way I feel doesn't count! What should I do to let her know that while I feel sorry for her, I still have my feelings and they're valid too?"
Don't be the person who inspires that post.
And my best wishes to you and your boyfriend, most especially for his safe return from his service assignment.
2007-02-15 07:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Karin C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I knew this lady like that once. I remember when the 9/11 attacks happened a few weeks later I was talking to her about how awful it was for those people's families that still had hope and thinking that their loved ones might still be out there somewhere and she said that she couldn't feel sorry for them b/c she had not gotten over her own son dying almost 5 yrs. before that. I thought that was kind of mean for her to say in my opinion.
2007-02-15 07:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by K-E-G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You friend needs to evaluate why she does not see her boyfriend more often and adjust her thinking accordingly. She should consider if her guy doesn't see because he is working, or was he hanging out with "the guys"? How serious is their relationship? If they are serious about each other, the above reasons should could make a difference. If the relationship is more casual or uncommitted, he is under no real obligation to see her at all. If he's working all the time, I'd say she is being selfish by expecting him to see her more than he is able to.
2007-02-15 07:18:49 · answer #4 · answered by sissyd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well many people have many different feeling's and i think that your boy friend is interested in other thing so he may be corncerntrated ni military activities . But plz don't tell that they have no feelings .
2007-02-15 07:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by Aman B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In fact some things are good but some are not, however it depends how a person reacts.
2007-02-15 07:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by Realistic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋