I know that I am an independant person, Iv'e been hearing all my life. I don't work in groups very well, I can't even be with a friend for very long, because I like to be alone sometimes. Will a relationship ever work for me? Is there anyone that is independant and is in a relationship? Stories please!
2007-02-15 06:39:16 · 20 answers · asked by beach_blonde_molly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Independent doesn't = loner, it simply means we are capable of taking care of ourselves. Independent people make great relationship partners actually, as they tend not to be needy and clingy.
However you also sound like a bit of a loner, so it may be more difficult for you to comfortably share your life with someone else. Give it time though...you need to meet someone who is open to giving you your space and "alone time" without feeling rejected. People like that exist, so don't give up hope!
2007-02-15 06:47:28 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm also really independent, not in a way that i like being alone, but in a whay that i really have to do things my own way, and can't stand other people limiting what I can do. To be honest, I'm sorry to tell you the few relationships i've had were very hard, and all ended because I didn't invest enough time and the feeling was lost. I guess the best you can do is find someone who's also independent or someone who can understand you, and allways let him/her know your feeling aren't changed, that's just the way you are.
2007-02-15 06:47:28 · answer #2 · answered by chato_mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a very independent person too. I hate being "attached" to someone 24/7. You just need to find someone who understands that you are independent and feels the same way. But you also have to be willing to give some of you time to this person.
2007-02-15 06:48:12 · answer #3 · answered by southernbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have relationships that work. There is nothing wrong with needing to be alone sometimes. You just haven't found the right person is all. Any one who truly loves you will understand and respect the time you need. You also need to compromise and find ways to learn that sometimes its ok to be a little less independent,trust someone. Just choose carefully.
2007-02-15 06:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by misshdancer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I'm very independent. I've heard that too for most of my life. I hang on to friends pretty well, some things like on my own and some things I don't. You can still keep your independence and still have a relationship =) Most men WANT that in a woman, trust me. They don't like women who are needy all of the time. I'm one of those that I don't NEED someone, but I'd like to HAVE someone to spend time with =)
If the man you're with or want to be with either doesn't like this, support it or agree with it, you be with the wrong person. Best Wishes; keep me posted!
2007-02-15 06:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in relationships now. What you really want to know is would you be content in a romantic relationship. It doesn't sound like it. You could find someone as independent as yourself, but independent clashes with "caring for someone else more than yourself".
2007-02-15 06:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by The Central Scrutinizer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah you can but you're going to have to surrender a part of yourself to make the relationship work. im a home body. i don't really like going out because it take too much time and energy so if i'm dating a guy i let him know that up front we can go out on dates but it's not going to be every weekend. you have to do the same tell the person your interested in that your independent and you like to do certain things by yourself and it's nothing against him.
2007-02-15 06:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am largely independant myself and it was hard to find a man that appreciated it and didn't want to strip me of it. I have finally found one and it was definately worth the wait. I had alot to learn about myself. One of those things was to trust someone enough to let go of some of that independance. Don't confuse independance with pride. That could be part of your problem, as it was mine. You'll meet the right person and you'll understand. There is someone out there for everyone. You just have to have the patience to find it. Beleive me, they will find YOU when you least expect it!
2007-02-15 06:45:32 · answer #8 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you understand the other person has feelings, too, and not everytihng is about you. I told my guy right at the beginning that I need time to be alone every single day, and he's respected that without question. It helps that he works alot. You just have to find the person who compliments your needs and wants. I'd never want to be the kind of couple who spends every free minute together.
2007-02-15 06:44:07 · answer #9 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think so. Or hope so. I have been independant for so long thats my way of life.
My last relationship was hard, because my bf expected a lot from me for him. I am not selfish, but I do not like someone standing over me.
This new guy I like, he lets me have my space and speak my mind. I love it. We might work one day- if he doesnt get too clingy.
2007-02-15 06:43:53 · answer #10 · answered by baby_rost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋