Why do people think that parents who throw adult children around 18-25 years old out of the house are bad?

Question

shouldn't they move out once they hit 18? and also, doesn't parenting legally end at age 18?

Answer 1

what if the child turns 18 and they're still in high school. then they're parents kick then out and to make their rent they have to quit going to school. now the world ends up with another uneducated person in it. yeah legally parenting ends at 18 but morally, emotionally, mentally, and ethically it never ends. i can't see me putting my 18 year old child out of the house just because she was classified as an "adult" in the eyes of the law. as long as the kid is doing something positive then I can't see why a parent would want to get rid of them at 18. now if your child is 25 then i'd put them out because staying home with the parents that long is pure laziness.

Answer 2

well some people just think that if you kick your kid out no matter what age that it means you are cold hearted or something. That doesn't mean it is true but some people just think that way. As for the parenting being over at 18 I don't think that is technically true. You are a parent forever. Not till the kid turns 18. Legally you can say hey they are an adult now but a parents job is never really done. What ever you do just make sure it is right for you and your family. Ignore what others think cause it's none of their business any way. Good luck!

Answer 3

In my opinion it depends on each family's circumstances. For example, if a person is 22 and living in their parent's house with no job, not going to school, and completely mooching off the parents then said person should be kicked-out. In my case it wasn't really necessary at 18. I went to college close to my parent's home, and they said and I agreed that it would be cheaper for me if I just stayed in their home while attending college instead of getting an apartment five min. from their house. Also, I don't feel that some people are mature enough to live completely on their own at 18. On another note, parenting may "legally" end at 18, but my mother is still my mother to this day and still gives me guidance. Parenting may end legally at 18, but it doesn't end emotionally.

Answer 4

18 is a bit young to toss out. They have just gotten out of high school and not making enough to pay for an apartment even with 4 roommates these days with the price of housing. You never stop parenting your children ever. You have no legal say once they are over 18, but once a parent always a parent. You will see the difference once you have kids of your own. Wouldn't you want to see your kids succeed in life without tossing them to world when not financially able to do so just yet.

Answer 5

No, but in certain cases it is an act of love and support. like if the child had taken a financial risk on a business venture that didn't work out. they may need a temporary place to stay to work and save money. But if the child isn't working and just being lazy, they need tough love. Sometimes it's bad, sometimes it's good. Legal parenting ends at 18 but being a good parent is supporting good behavior and not enabling poor behavior.

Answer 6

Ok...did you ever over-simplify that!

Bad parents/bad children usually go hand in hand. If you have a child living with you, that has never gone to college, is older than 18, doesn't pay rent, parties...whatever...maybe there is a reason they are a bad child, and maybe its because you're a bad parent.

Parenting can legally end at whatever age you want to say it does...but they will always be your child. Being a parent has very little to do with anything "legal" but is a responsibility. If you haven't taught your child, no matter how old, to be responsible, then it is your failure, and not theirs.

Answer 7

It depends on the situation. Like LoriBeth said, it wouldn't be wise to make a college student move out of the house because his/her main focus should be on school. Also, parenting is a lifelong responsibility. It doesn't matter what age the children are; everyone is different. I say let them decide when they are ready to move out, within reason. If they're simply moochers, they shouldn't be allowed to stay at home; however, if they are really trying to make something of their lives, there shouldn't be any "rules" about what age they should stop living there.

Answer 8

At 18 some are still quite like kids...Maybe under the right conditions they could stay another year or so, but I feel that if you don't get them out soon you are going to have a child on your hands for the rest of your life.PLeeeeze... At 25 they need to have their own life.

Answer 9

18 is still very young. too young. the kid can legally move out, yes, but a good parent will want to help their kid as much as possible releasing them into the real world. sometimes that means giving them a roof over their heads. i think it's a good idea to charge a little rent though so that they still have to work.

Answer 10

Parenting never ends if you do it well. Different kids may need to stay at home longer than others, but there comes a point where someone needs to charge rent or otherwise encourage them to start their adult life.

A mama eagle tears up the nest when the kids are big enough so that they will have to learn to fly. She's not trying to kill them when she pushes them off the branch. Eagles are made for soaring adn hunting not sitting in a nest waiting for a free dinner.

What are our kids made for? To learn to wait for handouts then entitlements? Fly baby fly.