he wants me back and i wont go back to him. he says he will change this time after 2 1/2 yrs of saying this. he knows im serious this time. do you think he will try and change if he knows he is going to loose me for good? he was lieing and gawking at women in front of me. he was lieing of his where abouts and so on. so what do you think?
2007-02-15 06:38:51 · 10 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think after 2 half years of him saying he will change and he don't he is lying. He is not going to change he is just saying it because he knows you forgive him or take him back if you are tired of it then i think you need to change and let him go are you will dealing with for the rest of your life. Get it together.
2007-02-15 06:46:14 · answer #1 · answered by blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I ask, what are you changing for him?
Loving is accepting the person you love as it is, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Now, if there are some things you can not stand, then you have to talk to him and explain why and what you want him to do or at least would like him to try to do to correct the problems.
But expect him to ask you for something too. And if he doesn’t, then you have to ask him to tell you what is it the he doesn’t like about you so you car also try to fix it if you can. If he says “nothing, you are perfect”, he is lying. Nobody is perfect.
Communication is the key for a good relation, I tell this to everyone. But you also have to be willing to change some things and also willing to accept other things. Is a mutual agreement. And is not easy.
And if you expect him to change just to keep you, then you are 100% wrong and the relation will not work. You do not force people to change, they change because they want and because the love you. Simple. And is because when you are in love, you try to do as much as you can to please him/her, and never expect anything in return. That comes naturally when there is mutual love.
You have lots of things to learn about love. Think about it, and have an honest conversation with your boyfriend. There is still time.
Good luck.
2007-02-15 14:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st off men are going to look at other women - thats inevitable. Lying ranks right up there with cheating in my book. So if he really has changed he'll be able to show. Ask him why do he really want to get back with you - if he says he loves you, ask him his definition of live and what is it that he loves about you? If he's having a hard time answering those questions - then he haven't changed.
I do believe people can change thats if they really want to but before getting back with your ex --- find out if his motives are sincere.
2007-02-15 15:00:29 · answer #3 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did it for 2 1/2 years, he probably won't stop. Also since it took you 2 1/2 years to put your foot down and then go back to him, he won't take you seriously the next time because he knows you'll be back.
2007-02-15 14:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just move on because he's just going to do the same thing.So I say NO don't stress yourself because once a liar and a cheat always a liar and a cheat.
2007-02-15 14:47:11 · answer #5 · answered by Dominique J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a girlfriend that do the same thing,and she messed up once and i took her back..But i told her this time I'm not doing it again if she mess up,and you have to stick to what you say or they will start take over u...
2007-02-15 14:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hE loVEs u HE wiLl cHAnge aND coME BAck IF noT theN it WASnt MEnt 2 BE
2007-02-15 14:43:09 · answer #7 · answered by chilingurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible, yes. I believe in second chances if you really care for him! Just don't give him too many, he will take advantage of it!
2007-02-15 14:44:08 · answer #8 · answered by justlookin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl i think you need to just move on, he is not worth your time because once you are a liar, you will always be one
2007-02-15 14:49:25 · answer #9 · answered by precious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah. just for get about him.
2007-02-15 14:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋