never really been happy.?

Question

i have never really been that happy. yes i have happy moments, but i'm now 23 years old, athletic and i have friends. i just dont care, i've never cared. and no one or nothing makes me that happy. also i've never had a girlfriend that makes me happy, BUT!!!! i have found a girl, who makes me awfully happy. (a first). but we argue, and that makes me angry. (by that way i have anger problems i think.) she's also selfish. basically i break my balls for her, and when i look for a thanks i have to force it out of her. if i have money in my pocket, i litterally give it to her. so i ask i dont have any question. i'll take whateva (in a boston accent).

Answer 1

I totally have felt the same way for a year or so. It feels like I am just walking through life and everything I have ever done has been to make someone else happy. That's why I am applying to this school for people who are gifted in science in math. I believe in God and all, and I try to put my troubles on Him. But still it is really hard. It feels like you are dragging 5000 pound bowling balls on your ankles everywhere. I understand what you're feeling, but I guess it won't help for me or you to mope around. I hope you feel better soon!!

Answer 2

Well you shouldn't be handing your money over to this chick. If she's broke maybe she needs to get a job...pull her own weight.

If you truely aren't happy then you haven't found the right person. Your only 23...you have time. But don't stay in a relationship with someone you aren't happy and in love with. The point of girlfriends and boyfriend (relationships) is to find the right person for you. If you have been with her for a while and you know it's not going to go anywhere then maybe it's time to end the relationship.
But know this. The person you do fall in love with. The girl that is right for you. She is going to drive you up the wall more than any other person you will ever know. Things she doesn't is going to get on your nerves. And the reason they are going to bother you so much is b/c you care and love that person. People wouldn't bother you if you didn't care about them. You would give a ratts a** what they did if you didn't care. I don't think you would be here if you didn't care about this person. But I don't know you...so I can't really say for sure.
If you have anger problems. Maybe you need to talk to someone about this. But don't think there is something wrong with you b/c you get angry easily. Maybe you could talk to your girlfriend about your anger issue.

Answer 3

Okay a couple of things here: If nothing makes you happy, you may want to see a doctor because you may be suffering from depression. It's not uncommon. Secondly, you might want to see a therapist about your anger problems. It helped me (and I had a REAL problem). As far as your girlfriend is concerned, you should never LOOK for a thanks...you should "bust your balls (in a New York City Accent) for your girl because you WANT to not because you want praise and acclaim. However, she shouldn't take you for granted, either and a little bit of appreciation does go a long way. She may not be the right girl for you if she's selfish and seems to take you for granted. But before you break up with her, examine yourself. Maybe it's something YOU do. I've learned that if you have a problem with your spouse/mate, changing YOUR behavior will change THEIR behavior 9 times out of 10. If her behavior doesn't change, then it's time to move on. But seriously, you need to see a doctor and a therapist because your anger and possible depression are fixable but you're the one that's got to go and "get the tools." Good luck man.

Answer 4

I am not sure if you have heard this, but there seems to be an increasingly powerful movement called "The Pussyfication of America."

An old man was reported on this very principle. The reporter asked the old man, "Hello, Sir. I want to ask you something. During your generation you didn't have prescription anti-depressants, you had to struggle with having a family early on in your life, you had to struggle through political fiascos, you didn't have motivational speakers, you had no Internet, your news reporting came from newspapers and radio shows, you had just been out of one war when a new one came lurking, you faced nuclear extermination, you didn't really have anything else but blue-collar jobs and the pressure of industrialization, you lacked all these things, and yet you still got a lot of things done in your life. How on Earth, Sir, did you make that happen? A lot of youth nowadays always seem so depressed and out of place, like they don't have a clear place and moment in time, like Life doesn't mean anything. Why do you think that is?"

The old man replied: "Because back then we were men, not a bunch of pu$$ies."

I rest my case.

Answer 5

Maybe you're looking for your happiness in the wrong areas? You're 23, athletic and have friends, that is more than what most people have. It's good you have a girl, but you shouldn't have to almost beg for a thank you. If she can't say "thank you" than she doesn't respect you and "your balls". It's your money - not hers.... It's up to you. Maybe you should start caring also? Just a thought. Don't be a door mat to her.

Answer 6

How does she makes you happy if she takes your money and doesn't really appreciate you. I'm not understanding maybe you like when people miss use you. You need to find someone who will treat you right and let you know it will be alright and stop being so depress you are still young live your life to the fullest.

Answer 7

You can't find happiness in other people, and it's not a goal. You just have to decide to be happy no matter what.


J. Donald Walters - “Happiness is an attitude of mind, born of the simple determination to be happy under all outward circumstances.”

Margaret Lee Runbeck - “Happiness is not a station you arrive at, but a manner of traveling.”

Agnes Repplier - “It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.”

John B. Sheerin - “Happiness is not in our circumstance but in ourselves. It is not something we see, like a rainbow, or feel, like the heat of a fire. Happiness is something we are”

Answer 8

Well if you think you have an anger issue look into it with your doctor and no one needs to know.. As for her if your not happy why waste your time?? Have you told her how you feel?? If not tell her and if you have and she doesn't seem to care move on!!

Answer 9

Boy it sounds like you have problems. Break up with that girl and get some therapy.

Answer 10

I've been told that I will never/never have been/ happy. Read "The Purpose Driven Life".