I think I can trust him but I really don't know how to trust anyone anymore. What are some words of advice to help me snap out of it?
2007-02-15 06:01:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trust is hard...but take it from someone who has been on both sides of that....you can get it back.
Communication is the biggest key in building trust. Tell your boyfriend how you feel...be honest. Tell him how you feel about him and let him know, that he can be honest with you.
Tell him that if he decides he wants to be with someone else, physically or emotionally, to tell you first. I know it sounds crazy but wouldn't you rather have someone's honesty and hurt for a little while, then be lied to behind your back and be scarred emotionally (such you are now)?
Reassure that you are not accusing him of cheating or wanting to cheat, but that you are telling him because you want complete honesty. Also realize, that with this comes some things you might not want to hear, but it will make your relationship strong.
2007-02-15 06:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you take your old baggage and introduce it into your new relationship. The ex cheated on you. This guy doesn't deserve to be raked over the coals for another guys mistakes does he? I would give him some respect and give him all your trust. At the same time, I would start looking at the reasons why your ex cheated on you in the first place. What kind of relationship was it? What is your level of self esteem? Most men cheat if they think they can. What kind of guy was he? Maybe you are picking guys who walk all over you? What did you do to tell your ex it was okay? If you can figure that out, then look at your new relationship and determine if you are putting out the same "signals". Unless you figure this out, you are doomed to repeat yourself and maybe this may cause the new man to go down the same path.
2007-02-15 14:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust takes time to see, don't judge him you know what to look for so if it happens then you will see it . If you keep thinking about the past you will not give him a chance.
The past is the past let him prove himself.He may be thinking of you the same way so be kind.
2007-02-15 14:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember you can bounce back from your ex and be stronger than ever before. to do that,m you have to trust someone else. the guy your dating now? isnt your ex - remember that. He deserves to have the chance to let you love him He deserves the trust that he wont hurt you.
2007-02-15 14:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is Sooooooooo overrated. trust no one, but don't let that stop you from having a good time.
2007-02-15 14:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all tell your new boyfriend how you feel and tell him the reason on why you are that way and if he can't handle it than move on but you just have to listen and follow your heart.
2007-02-15 14:05:51 · answer #6 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you're with a great guy...
You don't say how long you've been dating.
If he's a great guy, he'll wait for you to trust him.
Good luck.
A~
2007-02-15 15:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋