2007-02-15 05:59:19 · 20 answers · asked by chris c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The past is just the past. Either you care about her or you don't.
2007-02-15 06:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she was ashamed of her past and thought you would judge her for her past instead of seeing her for the person she is now. Unless you have been intimate and there is a strong chance she could have given you an STD, then I think you should leave her past in the past and focus on the present and the future. The fact that you said that she wanted to be perceived as a "good girl when she wasn't", says that you already have the opinion of her that she wasn't a "good girl". That statement already shows you are judging her. She probably picked up on that perception of her and was afraid to be truthful out of fear you wouldn't accept her. If you care about her, then try to get over it. It's the here and now that counts. My fiance had a very sexual past and he was open and honest with me from the get-go. I, on the other hand, did not have a varied past. We are both faithful and committed to each other and love and appreciate each other for the people we are NOW. The past has shaped both of us to be the people we are today. Celebrate the past for that reason alone - she would not be the person you care about today, were it not for the past which shaped her. I hope things can work out with you both.
2007-02-15 06:06:36 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a woman, ALL women lie about their sexual pasts, or just casually leave things out. Trust me it is better this way. Don't ask questions that you don't REALLY want the answers to anyways. What difference does it make. What is in the past is in the past. She is with YOU right now isn't she?
2007-02-15 06:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might have just been going through a phase, and didnt want you to think that she was always like that. I think its important to be honest about your sexual past, because of the diseases out there, but at the same time I can see where she is coming from with not wanting to divulge everything.
2007-02-15 06:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and tell her it bothers you that she lied. If her sexual past is a problem for you, you have to decide whether she's worth it. I know a lot of women who conceal their sexual histories because they were raised to believe that women who are openly sexual are inherantly bad people. It's unfortunate that men and women are taught different things concerning sexuality growing up, but it's the truth, and it may be a problem for her.
2007-02-15 06:29:17 · answer #5 · answered by OhKatie! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not about wanting to be perceived as a good girl. Maybe she was afraid you'd think less of her who knows. In either case we should always be honest about our sexual history. Hell, in a sense it becomes our sexual history as well. Honesty goes a long well - guess it's a lesson learned for her.
2007-02-15 06:07:04 · answer #6 · answered by Jessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all , let's do away with the labels. Everyone has made mistakes, and had victories in their lives. I'm more interested in how you found out about her sexual past. Did find out in the street, because she had no intention of telling you? or Did she come out and admit it to you herself?
If you can forgive her, you may want to applaud her faithfulness to you given her past history. She thinks that much of you, and herself now. You may also want to consider the things she may have learned in her past. She may have a wealth of sexual adventure, and knowledge that she will only want to share with you now if you proceed cautiously.
Think about the fact that you will not have to go through the pain of teaching her anything (as you would with a virgin). My man, You may have discovered a sexual gold mine! but first you will have to work through your own bulls**t about whether you can deal with her and her past first. If she scares you now, tell her that and I guarantee that she will be gentle. Have Fun!
2007-02-15 08:02:32 · answer #7 · answered by SONG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she lied about her past, then she obvously really likes you and just wanted you to see her as the woman she is not, not the woman that she used to be. She should still apoligize for lying, but it's understandable why she'd want to lie.
2007-02-15 06:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by can'tfiguremeout 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So? the past is the past man. Why worry about it when you've got the future to worry about?
2007-02-15 06:14:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
97% of girls lie about thier sexual past.... and if they say they don't lie about it then they are lying about that
2007-02-15 06:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by novagirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋