This is going to sound really petty but i need to know if i am being over sensitive or not. There is a group of 3 of us that go to lunch together everyday. Today I was with one of them and the other was going to meet us out for lunch. Well the one that was susposed to meet us called and said she needed to talk... and asked if i would leave. is it just me... or is that rude? I can understand having a problem and needing to talk. but asking someone to leave a resturant for it??
2007-02-15 05:57:12 · 26 answers · asked by jenj2569 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That is unbelievably rude!! She could have easily contacted the other person other than at lunch if she didn't want you to hear.
You should find other people to meet with for lunch rather than these b*tches!
p.s. I hope it was a really embarrassing problem she had like hemorrhoids
2007-02-15 06:41:43 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Claire - Hates Bigotry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not petty.....it's pretty darn rude for her to do that.
HOWEVER, if she has always been a decent person in the past, maybe she is going thru something super terrible right now and just didn't know what to do and was so focused on her bad issue that she let her manners go for a moment.
Maybe shoot her an email late and tell her that you're really sorry for whatever it is that she's upset about and you hope she gets things worked out. You could also say, "I missed you both at lunch today. It wasn't nearly as much fun. But I understand that you're going thru something today and I hope you're able to get things straightened out soon."
Just a thought. But still, it was rude.
2007-02-15 14:33:17 · answer #2 · answered by ssssss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your so-called friend was unbelievably rude and crass. And the other friend who was complicit in this etiquette felony is also rude and crass. She should have told the person who called and asked you to leave that she would talk to the caller later, off-line, but that it was inappropriate to ask someone already present at the table to leave.
If I were you, I'd start looking for a new group to go to lunch with, or cherish a solitary lunch rather than allow others to treat me so poorly. And I'd treat each of these boors, unasked, to a book on manners, which they very sorely need.
2007-02-15 14:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by Karin C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think that was rude. And your not being petty. If she needed to talk she could of talk to your other lunch buddy on the phone or got with her after work. Asking you to leave the restaurant was disrespectful and I would think that that person may have a problem with me since she can't discuss it later.
2007-02-15 14:26:02 · answer #4 · answered by ladyP 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate being the "extra friend" which is in fact what you are. My sister and wife were best friends long before I met my wife. My sister was and is super nice while its just the two of them, but when her other friends are around, my sister is rude nonstop. sucks being the "extra friend" and I'd make new ones.
BUT, the problem could be that your friends think you have a big mouth, as some women do seem to repeat everything they hear like a 5 year old. If you're not a loud mouth then tell her to piss off.
2007-02-15 14:06:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it was rude. This 3rd person could have scheduled another lunch or meet with the other person after work. Asking you to leave during your lunch hour was rude and inconsiderate.
2007-02-15 14:48:58 · answer #6 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Asking you to leave a restaurant? That was definately not the time to ask. She could have very well talked to the other person before, or after lunch.
2007-02-15 18:23:42 · answer #7 · answered by Billy H 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that was totally rude. she should have asked your other friend to meet later or talk on the phone, and not ask you to leave. She has the right to choose who she trust, but not the right to be rude.
2007-02-15 14:04:30 · answer #8 · answered by RPH 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would have to agree with you. However, give her a chance to apologize and explain herself, because she may have had a problem with the other girl and didn't want to involve you. If that's the case, she may have tried to saved you some discomfort, or at least thought she had.
If no apology is forthcoming, you may want to opt out of this merry threesome, or bite the bullet and live with your third party status!
2007-02-15 14:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by briang731/ bvincent 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
maybe they want you two to become friends all the time and rather have fun eith another person instaead of with a item,
like that or it could be rude but if it doesnt cheange you idea about him then it was what people wait for anyway
2007-02-15 14:06:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋