2007-02-15 05:50:06 · 15 answers · asked by maneone22 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll tell you what holds you back...what other people think.
Stop caring what other people think about you, be yourself and be proud. If you are a meathead, be proud of it. If you are a computer nerd, be proud of it.
Have some confidence in who you are, don't let people tell you who to be, and enjoy life! Of course have some tact and be nice and friendly, but stop worrying....I guarantee...I would stake my name on it...you go out, have fun and be yourself (don't worry about impressing others) and you will find friends and maybe even lovers, and you won't even know you were looking!
2007-02-15 05:55:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are lonely and don't want to be, right? But perhaps you feel hesitant to meet someone. Right?
You have to find out what is holding you back. It could be fear. Fear of the unknown, fear of rejection, fear of failure... whatever. Well just remember that fear is all imagined. It's all fantasy and has never happened. You really never know what will happen. And, if something bad does happen, you will be able to handle it. So if you get rejected, so what, that just means she wasn't the right girl for you, so it's a good thing really and now you can try the next person. Just find out what your fears are and really think , "what's the worst that could happen." Chances are, you the worst really isn't so bad and something you can handle.
Then, you have to just do it. Ask someone out even if you don't feel up to it. Sometimes when we just get past that initial fear, we find out it's really not that bad.
Good luck.
2007-02-15 14:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by Get it Together 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, are you shy? Try joining some kind of organization that is solely to socialize, like in Virginia they have some groups that are solely to meet up and make friends, like the "socialables" check out something like that. Just loosen up, everyone feels like that, even people that are outgoing and social like myself. Also, you might want to join a church singles group, people are always so nice, understanding, and gentle there.
You said meet someone "new", does that mean you are with someone and don't want to let go because you are afraid of not being able to meet someone else, that's a different situation. But if so, been there, let go! you will definitely meet someone else.
If not, then dare yourself to get out and meet people, the hardest step is doing it, but once you're there, it's really easy because everyone is feeling and doing the same, so it's a breeze. When you are being social, most important, just be yourself. If you are not comfortable being yourself, then there might be somethings you are embarrassed of and may need to work on changing. That's no biggie and nothing new, everyone goes through this.
Good Luck!! :))
2007-02-15 13:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by triciaelle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
because its your life and you have to live with ur decisions. Have you had bad relationships in the past? been hurt? that would be one reason why your holding back. also lonlyness sometimes compells us to think that we need to find someone, but it could also mean we need to re evaluate ourselves and spend more time concentrating on freinds and family. rushing into something and trying to force yourself to find someone is pressureing and scary, i kno from experience. dont worry about it for a while. we are the ones that make ourselves feel lonely by lookin on the dull side of things, start thinkin about the good and the great and be optomistic. youl find someone when your ready
2007-02-15 13:58:17 · answer #4 · answered by SLIM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because it is always scary to start over again. I hate the thought of being lonely so I make sure I am not. Starting over is scary in that fact that you have to get to know someone over again and trust them. I could never trust my ex-husband, therefore, it is hard to trust others, but you have to or you will never have another relationship. So get out there and try; you never know who you will meet!
2007-02-15 13:57:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lost in Maryland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like fear of rejection. You need to decide for yourself, which is worse, being rejected or being alone? When you're ready to give dating a try, figure out what's holding you back. Is there something about you that you think potential dates won't like? If it's something superficial and something that can be changed, consider changing it or try to meet someone who is less superficial and will like you for who you really are. Finally, to be happy, you need to find somebody who shares your interests and with whom you are comfortable. Start up a couple of group activities you really like (singing, theater, sculpting, skiing, hiking, contra dancing **fabulous activity for meeting people!***, orchestra, cooking classes, bike clubs, etc. etc. etc.) Stop obsessing about meeting someone and just be yourself and have fun. Someone who likes you for yourself will soon show up :-)
2007-02-15 14:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by peacepusher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club. Sometimes I get tired of being lonely but I just don´t know how to be with someone so I just run away. If you find the "cure" for this let me know.
2007-02-15 16:27:49 · answer #7 · answered by Cristina O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've been in a past relationship where u got hurt then maby its your subconscious telling u that u don't want to be hurt like that again or u might just not be ready for another relationship just now.
2007-02-15 13:55:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's trust Issue, Bruh? If you can't shake it? it'll cause you to be lonely. You have to decide which do you wanna put up with.
2007-02-15 13:54:17 · answer #9 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have on idea was it somthing in your past that hurt you and if so confornt that person or thing and give yourse;f time and you will find someone
2007-02-15 13:55:16 · answer #10 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋