Do we still have a chance?

Question

My boyfriend of three months and I just recently had a discussion about how he needed more space and wanted to see whomever he wanted and that he wanted me to feel comfortable doing the same. We both know that although he has strong feelings for me, that are confusing and scaring him, my feelings for him are stronger than his but thats just because I know what I want and am more ready than he is for a commitment. Last night he surprised me on Valentines day and was in town (we live 45 minutes away from each other) so he came to spend time with me and flaked out with someone whom I know he had valentines day plans with well as I was walking him out to his car he proceeds to tell me that he's seeing someone else and I knew that thats who he was going to see. I'm so confused he obviously still wants to be with me he wouldnt have been with me instead of her on valentines day and he wouldnt be saying the things to me that he does I want to wait for him and give him space but is it worth it?

Answer 1

Follow your heart....but just dont seat around waiting. Have some fun in the mean while. Nothing wrong with waiting or fighting for something you feel is a sure thing....obviously, he cares about you or he would not have made the effort for V-day....but that does not mean he is ready for that committment......Good Luck!

Answer 2

Most men decide to "need more space" because a basic need isn't being met. This goes both ways. Most people don't know the basic needs of the oppisite sex. They assume that their partner needs the same things that they need. The number one basic need for most men is sexual fulfillment. As pigish as that might sound, it's true. The list goes on and usually stays on the side of the physical, while women are more emotional. Men value attractiveness while women value affection. It's kind of hard to meet those basic needs while living 45 min. away from someone. If those needs aren't met then both men and women tend to stray. It usually happens when someone else starts to meet those basic needs. Sometimes it happens without us even knowing about it. A man who is truely in love will never need space. Good luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 3

Listen girl. Keep this up and he will be gone for good. my ex girlfriend said she wanted space for school my a*s. she was seeing a next guy thats why she wanted space. Tell him listen the space thing isnt working out. you want to be together in a relationship with you and him only.see what he tells you. If he cant agree you know something is up. And you already lost him.PS most of my guy friends do the exact same thing so just cuz he came to visit doesnt mean anything. Good Luck.

Answer 4

for you - probably not - if he wants you he has to persue you, he can't be all wishy washy. he has to want you. It is so amazing how guys now aren't willing to be a MAN - and you really want someone who is a man. When I persued my wife, I made sure she knew I wanted her. I was the one to initiate it, there was no doubt in my mind she was the one for me. It sounds like he's confused, and it takes some guys a while to figure out what they want. But he can't just treat you like this. You have to be the one above all others. He can't just use you like this.
I don't know. Ask people who know you personally better. if you pray - pray and ask God to reveal the answer to you.
thanks

Answer 5

Only you can decide if he is worth it.
Do you want to play second fiddle? If he is going out with someone else and he still wants to see you, girl, you have to make him choose. End of story. Take no bullshit, make no excuses!

Answer 6

Hunny, he wants his cake and to eat it too, stop the madness, you are only allowing him to hurt you, and use your feelings up.
Drop him like a HOT POTATO, that's the only thing you can do, if he truly wants to be with you he will forget about seeing other people. GOOD LUCK

Answer 7

You never know. I waited two years for mine to figure out what he wanted. We'll be married in July.