Is it acceptable for a guy to point out a change of appearance on another guy? Such as: "Hey, you've lost weight" or "I like the new hairstyle"...etc.
I'm afraid only guys will truly know what I mean by this question.
2007-02-15 05:23:07 · 13 answers · asked by Diesel Weasel 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If your buddy drops a few pounds say "Man you've lost weight, You been sick or something?" A new hairstyle "Been to the weedwhacker I see."
You can point out these things as long as you do it right.
2007-02-15 05:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by meathookcook 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This question is quite adorable, but only because my male friends tell each other their butts look good in their new jeans. Granted, I have an open group of friends, but I think the uncertainty resides more in the messenger of such a comment, than with the receiver.
I can’t imagine anyone (male or female) not responding confidently to a positive reference to his/her change in appearance. Perhaps, the best way to determine if such mention is acceptable for a particular individual, is to ask yourself how you would feel if the guy paid you a similar complement.
There is too much negativity/insecurity in the world...if you have something nice to say—then why not say it?
2007-02-15 18:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by LUCKY3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm female and may not have the insight you are looking for with this question, I feel that it is acceptable as long as you do it the right way. In my experience, guys who are close friends can pretty much say anything and not worry about the "gay" factor. You can always try to put the compliment in with a joke or something. Just use the right language and you should be all set. Besides, girls think its nice that you actually notice stuff like that so it will give you bonus points.
2007-02-15 13:31:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The weight question is OK as long as it suggests a better appearance, I don't believe it's nearly as acceptable to point out when one has gained weight, i.e. man, are you a disgusting fat body! The hair style thing, well you can't be too delicate with that question, or someone might question your intentions. You can be a little more subtle, by asking what's different about you, did you get a haircut?
You're right, there are questions girls can ask girls that guys can't ask guys!
2007-02-15 14:02:59 · answer #4 · answered by briang731/ bvincent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order not to be mistaken by people who are clueless homophobes, you need to state such compliments in a "manly" way.
To use your examples:
Lost weight-"Dude, have you been lifting weights? You're getting ripped."
Hairstyle-"Cool 'do man."
Forother "manly" tips, try Mrmanly.com
2007-02-15 13:34:36 · answer #5 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Comments about personal appearance are always dangerous, whether they're positive or negative, or made to a man or a woman. I'd say nothing to a man, and nothing beyond "you look wonderful" to a woman.
2007-02-15 17:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are like children, they comment honestly on very noticeable things. if a guy is saying something, that means there is a big change. kids say the darndest things? so do men!
2007-02-15 13:57:59 · answer #7 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I asked my husband this (and trust me, he can be squicked by the "gay" thing), and he says it's perfectly acceptable. Even something like "Bob! You finally shaved the beard!" or something like that.
2007-02-15 13:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal - paying someone you know a compliment is always welcomed - it's nice someone notices - no matter who is telling you....
2007-02-15 13:41:58 · answer #9 · answered by Amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Id find it acceptable - but I know what you mean.... Might be viewed as kinda "gay". But I wouldnt take offense to it. Most "manly men" might, but screw em!
2007-02-15 13:28:40 · answer #10 · answered by YDoncha_Blowme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋