I mean not only the type you'd date as a teen or a young adult but the type of man who's literally your prince charming and the ONE if you get my drift. What makes him the ONE? All answers are welcome and I appreciate your views on things ladies. Yes even us guys value advice from the opposite sex some times. Thanks all. Start answering please.
2007-02-15 05:05:49 · 18 answers · asked by dave_83501 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Great answers so far ladies. I think one guy answered too but he's right ya know. Keep em comming. Truth is some times us "real" guys actually get it and do see eye to eye with you ladies on some things. You never know till you meet us.
2007-02-15 05:16:13 · update #1
Thanks for the additional answers ladies. Again it's going to be really hard picking just one best answer here. I think we all agree about honesty and integrity and such. I also think we as people regardless of sex wanna be around REAL people not them fake people who are mearly acting their way through life. Who likes a fake person any way? I sure don't.
2007-02-17 05:55:05 · update #2
Honesty,loyalty,respect,kindess,warmth,reliability. I have no interest in looks or flash cars,etc.. I prefer men who are real.
2007-02-15 05:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing i look for is somebody i can talk to about anything! whos as interested in what i do (im a designer/artist) as i am in there interests. i need to be able to feel comfortable with them (its all well and good them ticking every other box but this is an important one!) ive had too many relationships where it has been very one sided , i need a bloke that understands balance, will give back as well as take ( not materially but emotionally) will have the time for me regardless of weather weve been together for 2 weeks or 10 years. there are no specific things i look for eg dark hair tall etc, its more down to inital contact and how we connect afterwards, usually after a few weeks the 'bad' ones dont have much to contribute to the 'relaionship' whereas the good ones are always surprising me and keeping me interested!
oh and one more thing im really not a big drinker so any man that prefers to go out on a bender of a weekend (every weekend) is a no-go. i like a drink but not much ( a glass or 2 of wine at most!), i like to chat, i like to experiene new things. you cant do that if your nursing a hangover!!
2007-02-15 05:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I know I must have been shallow.
I always went for looks so nine times out of ten I ended
up with a Rat.
It wasn,t until I was 30 when I met my husband at his
fancy dress party and we just 'clicked'. He was very
well dressed up as Dracula and I did not have a clue
what he actually looked like until I had a date with him.
It was a shock because I am usually attracted to dark
and hair and brown eyes and he was blonde with the
most beautiful blue smiley eyes! But I just felt I had met
my soulmate. So yes we are happy married with two
kids.
The trait that I hate is anyone that is mean with there
money. There is nothing so embarrassing as being
with someone with friends and they will not take a turn
in buying a round of drinks.
The one I love is someone that is caring, loyal with a
sense of fun.
2007-02-15 05:17:49 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is just one example of the kind of man I like....
I don't know if you've seen the show Beauty and the Geek but there was an episode where all the contestants were on a boat. One of the "beauties" thought it would be cool to get up on the deck of the boat in her stilettos and do some dancing like she had seen in music videos. A few of of the guys immediately asked her to come down because she was going to hurt herself. One of them said something like "if you won't come down, I'd feel better if you would at least take those shoes off" I thought to myself there's a real man. Most guys would be standing around going "ooh yeah a chick dancing on a boat in high heels!!" But he was more concerned about her safety.
2007-02-15 05:14:31 · answer #4 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prefer a real manly man with a slightly rugged look. I don't know why on all the girly calendars that all the men have to sport a shaved chest, as to me this looks too feminine. I like real men with hair on their chests. I like a man to be spontaneous and not boring, who makes life enjoyable to live. I don't like men who preen and pamper themselves, but just to dress well and look attractive (like the old Sunday Best) when going out. Taking time to do things with the children and enjoying their company is preferable too.
2007-02-15 06:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Kay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He MUST make me laugh. a lot. Or at least understand my sense of humour.
That's most important.
It sounds silly but i like him to be a bit aloof, there's nothing worse than a clingy, protective guy, i need my space, physically too.
It's also nice when they know what you like, and let you talk about yourself. (lol females are so self-absorbed)
Anyway these are just my opinions, most women prefer men to be all gentle and caring etc...i guess i'm just strange!!
oh well n/m, hope that helped
Xxx
Oh and i hate men who play stupid mind games with you, they have to be straight and honest. Also the other attractive thing is when they're just themselves, and don't try hard to impress you etc. Being casual and aloof impresses ME lol. And this sounds awful cos most women love it, but personally i hate it when a man is always telling you he loves you, it just loses its meaning!! Sorry i sound like a cold *****!! :s
Oh and it's also nice for them to be fairly intelligent, not naive and ignorant, that really p*sses me off, i like to have really nice long intelligent conversations!!
2007-02-15 05:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by Curiousity killed the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard question to answer as all women look for different things in men. A real man ( in my opinion) doesn't have to prove he is a man all the time. All that bravado and acting hard makes it look like you have something to prove. Honesty, sense of humour all the usual answers. I think you have to honestly be yourself and not pretend to be someone you think you should be. Someone out there will be looking for you and you could miss them by pretending to be someone you're not.
2007-02-15 05:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by sharon r 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'll list:
* Treats me and everyone else right.
* Smart!!!
* Affectionate, gentle, tender
* Creative/clever
* Chivalry, gentlemanly
* Open-minded and at least not totally opposite me in political views
* Sense of humor and compassion too
* honesty, honesty, honesty. Should I add no liars? No liars.
* NO ISSUES. No addictions, no anger issues, etc.
* self confidence, assuredness. Not egotistical, just knows he's someone who is worth my attention.
* shares my hopes for our future or is open to them
* patience, ability to talk and to listen about personal/sensitive topics
* strong
* loyal
2007-02-15 05:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
me personally i like a guy that can make me belly laugh, and has to have a dry sense of humour like mine, i don't like lads that are too out going because i myself when sober am quite shy, obviously the guy has to be trustworthy doesn't let you down all the time, i like my men to be men if a guy takes longer than me to get ready to go out then it definatly will not work, and he also has to be a gentlemen, like holding a door open.
brings you some flowers just because he's thinking of you.
and from these you can see why i am single at the mo , i may be a little picky rofl
2007-02-15 05:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by chocchip24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolute honesty right from the start of a relationship,no personality change 3-6 months into relationship ! easy to talk to but comfortable with each other if stuck for something to say ,good fun, no hangups from previous relationships similar interests,caring, romantic ,sexy ,confidant but not over confidant
2007-02-15 05:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by demmi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tallish, dark hair, brown eyes or green eyes, muscular not too thin and not too fat not that it would worry me if he is a bit overweight, nice teeth, nice smile , nice shaped mouth , no thin thin lips, clean hands, hairy chest and preferably a moustache , long hair or something like that. Not too fussy must have good manners but must be manly and stand up for himself not a little mouse.
2007-02-15 05:16:19 · answer #11 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋