I took my Valentines date out to a club last night and my ex happened to also be there. My date went to the restroom and I briefly went over and spoke to my ex since I had not seen her in a while. My date came back while we were talking and promptly got her things and left.
I think she was wrong since I have no interest in my ex.
She totally ruined my night by leaving. Do you think she was right?
2007-02-15 04:59:47 · 11 answers · asked by Michael G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She ruined your night by leaving? Ever think what you did to her night? You probably embarrassed the daylights out of her.
You were on a date. She left you for two or three minutes, and you went to go speak to an ex. That's just RUDE.
If, as you say, you have "no interest" in your ex, then why go speak to her at all? If you really needed to speak to your ex, then you should have called her another time when you were NOT on a date with somebody else. Period.
I probably would have walked out on you, too. IMO, you owe her an apology.
EDIT: To those who think his date was insecure, I'd argue that's not necessarily the case. She may just have zero tolerance for rudeness, especially if it was early on in their relationship.
2007-02-15 05:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your new date knew that your ex was in there, you should have waited for her to come back, then ask for her permission to go chat with your ex. But why would you do really feel the need to do such a thing on a valentine's day? Were the circumstances appropriate for you to do so? I guess not. The best thing now for you is that you should really learn your lesson and never ever repeat the same mistake again in future. You should probably go to your girlfriend and apologize. If it does not work, just forget it and move on. Good luck!
2007-02-15 13:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your date sounds like a very insecure, jealous person. Then again, perhaps you made the wrong choice by talking to an ex while you were on a date.
If you can't make things right by discussing the situation with your present gf, maybe she is not a person you really want to stay with.
I would have walked over, introduced myself, and would have taken your arm and put it around my shoulder. I would have also asked you why you felt the need to talk to your ex. But, I don't believe I would have stormed out. This seems to me to be childish behavior.
Good Luck
2007-02-15 13:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She jumped the gun. If you intended just to say a quick polite hi because you ran into someone you know, there was absolutely nothing wrong with that. What if you ran into an old school friend (male or female), wouldn't you say hi? If your date came back and noticed you spending more than a quick minute saying hi and you just left her sitting there all by herself, then I would have left too but it didn't sound like you did, did you?
2007-02-15 13:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by Paddington 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be a little insecure. How long ago did you two break up and was your ex alone with you when you two were talking? She may have just felt jealous because it was Valentines day and who you talk to when she went to the washroom?"your ex" She just misunderstood the situation, explain it to her.
2007-02-15 13:12:16 · answer #5 · answered by lalaland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She was out of line. I would of walked up to you and her or waited for you to come back to me and ask what was going on. Seems to me she doesn't have enough self esteem not to worry about other women in your life. Then again if your a "player" I can see why she just left...
2007-02-15 13:03:56 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask her..
perhaps she got a crappy cell phone call while in the bathroom.
perhaps she hates your ex and feels threatened/jealous of her.
before you put blame, communication is the key.
if she feels jealous of your friendship w/ your ex, you need to explain your friendship, and its only friendship, to her...you can also add that your GF is the only one you are interested in more than friendship.
if it was a crappy call, then support her and be the friend.
either way, it was a ruination of *your* night....it was a date and it was a night for the *BOTH* of you.
2007-02-15 13:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you did take someone else and started talking to your ex, id be pretty mad too.
2007-02-15 13:03:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oF COURSE sHES RIIGHT .. woULDNT you be mad if she was talking with her ex and she took yooouu out?? U have to see it in her situation too Even though u said you didnt have any interest in your ex maybe she didnt know that
2007-02-15 13:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well did she know it was your ex? did she know you were not still interested in her? how were you talking to your ex? any touching? who knows why she left. i think it is kinda silly personally.
2007-02-15 13:04:37 · answer #10 · answered by Atllas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋