I like a guy and I told him my feelings, he didnt feel the same, but Im sorta waiting for him. Well I really like him, and it feels SOO right! But, now I have a really good guy friend whose brother keeps asking me if I'll go out with him...? I dont want to break my friend's heart, because he's a really good guy and all. But, I can't picture myself with him. + he already knows that I'm crazy about my crush, and he teases me about it. What do you think?
2007-02-15 04:55:42 · 21 answers · asked by HAPPY <3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO NO...my friend's bro doesn't like me...my friend DOES!!
2007-02-15 05:07:11 · update #1
Uh, why should you wait for a guy who has already rejected you?
Your friend's brother should sink or swim on his own merits, regardless of the existence of Mr. No Thank You. If you like your friend's brother, then go out with him. Otherwise, when/if he asks, decline politely. That's it. It's not rocket science.
There's no reason you should sit around waiting for the first guy. NONE.
EDIT: Your clarification changes my answer only slightly. It is cowardly of your friend to send his bro in to do his dirty work. Tell your friend's bro to stay out of the middle of things; your friend should ask you this directly if he's sufficiently interested. From there, my advice is the same: when/if your friend gets around to asking, decline politely if you're not interested. This is probably something you should clear up ASAP anyway; I'm sure this lingering issue is making time with your friend uncomfortable.
And this has no effect on what you should do about your crush. He rejected you, and does not deserve any more of your time.
2007-02-15 05:01:37 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't break someone's heart if they haven't given it to you...guy friend's brother may be disappointed if you reject him, but if he feels ANYthing close to heartbreak then hes a needy kook and you're best to avoid him anyway.
What'll actually happen is he'll be bummed briefly that you said no, and his life will go on.
In the meantime, don't waste a lot of your time waiting on someone else, especially when you know they don't feel as you do. You definitely shouldn't date the brother if you aren't attracted to him, but likewise don't spend time waiting on someone who isn't a match for you and take a chance on missing out on some really great times with guys who would be good matches.
2007-02-15 05:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, I wouldn't wait around for your crush if he already told you he didn't like you...unless you ask him to go for coffee and stuff and start hanging out like friends, so he can get to know you.
If you want this crush as your boyfriend, you have to work for it a little if he doesn't like you.
If you feel too shy for that, then you should probably try to move on, as hard as it is. It might take a while. And it will probably hurt.
As for your friend's brother, if you can't picture yourself with him, try and space yourself away from him. If he likes you that badly to ask you out many times, then you should try and distance yourself so its easier for him to get over you. Either that, or hang out with him, making it perfectly clear that you guys are just friends. He might be able to bury those emotions once you realize that you just like him as a friend. Plus you guys might develop a really good friendship.
2007-02-15 05:09:12 · answer #3 · answered by etoiledenocte 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to think about going out with the other guy (who is actually interested in you). It may feel SOO right with your crush but if he doesn't feel the same way you do then you're just wasting your time.
2007-02-15 05:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by allbutsweet82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go out with anyone you don't want to. On the contrary, if you were to accept you'd be giving this guy hope which you're only going to crush later because you don't like him. And that's worse. That's harder to get over than if you turn him down from the beginning. You can't do things you don't want to do to please other people, thinking you'd hurt their feelings or that they'd be mad at you. You'll turn into a doormat. You should always listen to yourself.
2007-02-15 05:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with going out with this other guy and just letting him know that you aren't interested in anything more than casual dating. Tell him about the guy you really like to make him understand. Maybe if the guy you really like sees you are dating other people he will realize that he has to move quickly if he wants to keep you.
2007-02-15 05:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feel so right with him but he don't feel the same way he does for you... and you said something about friend's brother that really want to ask you out but really you can't picture him with you. so I know there door number 3 is waiting for you.. Who knows there a guy that have crush on you smilng.....you might be shocked... But really if you going to wait for that guy you will be not happy by saying this.. "I've wasted my life for one man hope that he will feel for me." "But, didn't work out"... So you might need to moved on... Even if you already told that guy about your feeling now not working out since he didn't feel the same.. so go find out number 3... there must be guy out there looking for you like you looking for... smiling.
2007-02-15 05:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you need to move on because it's obvious that your crush does not want you if you've told him how you feel and he still hasn't made a move and secondly you need to try your friend because he might be the best thing that will happen to you, but if you just really, really aren't interested in him that way then you need to let him know that you can't see yourself being more than friends with him.
2007-02-15 05:01:46 · answer #8 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tr to avoid this question or make up a excuse it always works for me. but if you are the totally goodie type ignore him or just if you break his heart then move on. And the teases you better load up on some good creaks cuz more bad comments would be comming your way.
2007-02-15 06:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by Tish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, ask yourself if you're willing to wait for your crush to ask you out!!! Do you really want to wait for so long for him to ask you out??? If your crush doesn't feel the same way, do you think there's some posible way that you'll change his mind!?!?! Your friend's brother must see something in you that your crush doesn't!?!? Just think about!!!
2007-02-15 05:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋