like from one day to another he says "oh i think we need some time off", what do you do,do you give it a couple of days than call...
FYI. 1yr relationship
2007-02-15 04:49:54 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give him the time off. He's asking you for it. He's telling you he needs some space. If he cares about you, then he will be back. If not, then you don't need him anyway. When a person needs time off, they are either thinking about someone else, or they are feeling pressured or suffocated or closed in somehow. By giving them their breathing room as they are asking, you are showing them you care enough about them to think about their needs. If after doing this, they don't come back, then that is a signal to you that you deserve to be with someone who won't need a break from you. We are not all suited for all people. There are plenty of guys out there however, who would appreciate you for who you are, and wouldn't want to spend a moment apart from you that they didn't have to. Don't give it a couple of days and then call. I know it's torture to wait, but this will give you a chance to really have an opportunity to find out what kind of guy your boyfriend is and how he really feels about you. If he really cares about you, then he will make the move to contact you. Live your life, give him his space and when he returns, if he asks why you didn't contact him, tell him it was because you were trying to give him the time he asked for. He will appreciate you all the more for that. If he doesn't, then he is playing games with you and that is another red flag you need to watch out for.
2007-02-15 04:58:39 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something is wrong, he can't put his finger on it, or he doesn't have the balls to talk to you about it. Or else, he is interested in someone else and can't figure out what to do. But when someone asks for space, it is wiser to give it. Ask him what he means, how much time, how much contact does he want etc. Don't let this go on too long though. A couple of weeks tops. You have needs too. He needs to figure out what he wants and have the spine to tell you. Spineless men are soooo annoying, and not very good bfs.
2007-02-15 13:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be anything: another female, he is getting claustrophobic in the relationship (that is if you you are needy), re-thinking his option to stay or leave, has some personal issues with himself that he wants to deal by himself (rare thing), etc.
if he asks for it, give him some time but dont wait too long or things will get stale.
call him in a few days, say after 3-4 days, and ask how he feels, show your support by telling him you will always be there for him, he may or may not open up.
if he says very little, prying may not be the right thing to do, despite the secrecy would be kind of strange...however, both of you have your own lives and you two arent married.
2007-02-15 12:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. They always do / say things that we do not understand and vice versa. Try not to let it bother you. He just wants a bit of time apart to get his head together. While he's away don't do any chasing because you'll just seem desperate. Let him do his own thing, but just let him know that you're there for him, whenever and whatever he needs, and then try not to worry about him. Enjoy the time that you have on your own too - get together with friends, go shopping, cinema, tidy your home.
If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be.
Hope things work out for you
2007-02-15 12:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Joyful97 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not communicating with you for this to come out of the blue. If he won't talk to you about why, I think I'd seriously check out other options if I were you. It sounds like the beginning of the end, or the beginning of you putting up with a guy that won't talk to you. Your choice.
He either isn't happy in the relationship, is seeing someone else, or someone else came back into his life. I wish there were another choice for you, but I think it's one of those three.
2007-02-15 12:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Jed R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same situation years ago. Out of the blue my bf told me that he neededsome time. I was like WOW! He couldn't give me a straight answer. I was with him for about a year I let it be, although I was devistated..he came back to me and said he realized that I was the one. It's just a phase guys go through, either cause of the crowd they are hanging with and peer pressure. Let him be girl and give him some time! Keep your head up!
2007-02-15 12:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything is not going fine for him.
it was not out of the blue from his perspective.
you may never find out why but usually it means they are breaking up with you.
you can try texting him or calling and see what the response is.
if you want him back. you will have some issues to work out.
he is going to have to be more honest about the problems if you get back together.
but if he doesn't seem responsive, leave it alone and wait for him to call. in the meantime, date other people.
2007-02-15 12:54:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some time, he's a guy. If this is the first thing that's ever come up like this, don't worry about it. A lot of times guys feel trapped and just need some breathing room. Don't worry about it.
2007-02-15 12:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by meg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it 2 weeks! They need time to think about where the relationship is going, they're scared or confused or just really busy and need no distractions.
2007-02-15 12:52:39 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Capo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well everything's not fine in his mind if he wants to take a break. let him go for a while and see if he comes back, get out there and date someone else in the meantime who's not gonna be wishy washy.
2007-02-15 12:53:49 · answer #10 · answered by Danielle 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋