He is my soul mate. But circumstances have us unable to get the relationship right. I love him with all my heart, but reality is that he just don't have it together right now. What do I do. I have tried to help him but I am doing too much.
2007-02-15 04:41:29 · 12 answers · asked by ccolston2005 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you don't think he has it together maybe he isn't your soul mate. I think you should move on.. if it's meant to be, the two of you will be reunited at a better time when the relationship has more chance of working.
2007-02-15 04:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can best answer this question, for YOU know the intimate details about this person and why "he just don't have it together right now".
If someone repeatedly rejects sorely needed help, then it's best--painful as it may well be--to turn and leave. Sometimes the shock of seeing that happen may snap the one needing help back into life and then he may make efforts to get things together.
2007-02-15 12:46:11 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if he's your soul mate, then he'll do whatever it takes to be with you, and so will you. That means loving him no matter what his state is.
I don't care how much you've helped him. Help him more--but don't help him so much that he becomes lazy and reliant on you. Sometimes people need help for god's sake. Don't just leave him hanging!
2007-02-15 12:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by f8_smyled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break for a while, if you are meant to be together it will work out later. Stop doing so much, let him stand on his own for a while.
2007-02-15 12:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok just lay back and chill just go with the flow and if its meant to be girl it will happen ok trust me ive been in ur place before were you dont know what the heck to do but it will all wok out no doubt!!! <3
2007-02-15 12:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by ~JJ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you love him but you just don't have things in the order you would like them to be in. You want to get yourself situated before you begin a relationship so you can give your all. Good luck.
2007-02-15 12:45:46 · answer #6 · answered by savanacrystal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not doing too much. if you love him, help him until your "helping hand" falls off. seriouisly, help him but, learn how to except your differences and understand you must look out for you, and he must look out for him. a relationship is 50% in and 50% out. don't take the whole 100% because then you are invading the individualality that is neccesary to help your-"self", get it? Good luck!
2007-02-15 12:55:39 · answer #7 · answered by cnelson9800@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think maybe you should take a break. not end everything, just sit him down and talk to him about everything, tell him that you need space and that you don't want to end it, just take a break and allow himt o figure out what he wants, and if that's you, he'll get it together. sometimes love just isn't enough
2007-02-15 13:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not ready to move on thats on him move on but if you love him really love him and being with him and think that he will change put up with him and keep trying but dont waste your whole life on him there is only so much you can do and then you need to change
2007-02-15 12:46:02 · answer #9 · answered by SANDIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont help, let him get his self together on his own.
2007-02-15 12:47:08 · answer #10 · answered by allbutsweet82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋