I don't think i Love my boyfriend the sme way because he is not romantic any more
2007-02-15 04:38:35 · 18 answers · asked by Kristy Loves Ricky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, romanticism fades over time, thats a fact of life. Relationships evolve and so do people. If he was never romantic, then he probably doesnt feel comfortable being romantic, or he feels silly when he does try. You cant force this on him.
My advice:
Show him how it feels, dont be romantic to him. Dont hug on him, cuddle with him, love on him. May him understand how you feel. Thats the only way to help him to understand, and start to want to change.
2007-02-15 04:44:20 · answer #1 · answered by The Date Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is not very romantic or very into public displays of affection. He kisses me in public but we don't hold hands or make out. I don't get romantic poems from him or notes about how much he loves me. If I get a card, it says "Love, his name". We've been together about 5 years and when we first started dating, I would ask why he doesn't do any of that stuff. He says he's never had a girlfriend that was into all of that. At the time, I was younger and thought that sort of stuff was important. But I found that doing those types of things doesn't always make everyone in the relationship happy. He's a terrific boyfriend and I was lucky to meet him. I realize now that I love him with all of my heart and he feels the same whether he writes a poem about it or not. If you love him for who he is then you shouldn't try to change him. If you KNOW that these things are important to you and his inability to be romantic is ruining your feelings for him, then get out of the relationship. But don't break up with your boyfriend if he's a great guy and just lacks romanticism. You may not find another like him.
2007-02-15 04:51:26 · answer #2 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys stop trying once they get you. That's why marriages fail. There's no incentive to keep trying. You can't make someone be romantic. Try taking up the slack yourself and maybe he'll get the hint. Or just tell him that you miss how the two of you were when you first started dating and you want more of that. This causes more women to stray in a relationship than anything else. Men just don't need it and don't care that you need it. But if guys would only understand how very important this is to most women they would keep it up always. It's so simple to write a little love note or bring home a small present or flowers. Got to keep the magic coming. Good luck with him......or move on!
2007-02-15 04:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was gonna say, "You cant make him be romantic.".....But then again anything is possible. Try this: First of all, ask him if everything is ok. If everything is "ok", then you be romantic with him. Do for him what you'd like him to do for you. That way, if he doesnt know how to be romantic, he'll get an idea. He may even be shy! But with you showing him how and showing him its ok to be romantic, he'll start being romantic! If a certain time goes by (depends on your patience) and you dont see a difference then tell him that you'd like him to be (more) romantic. If he loves you he'll make an effort, if he doesnt he'll be offended and thats your door......leave him.
2007-02-15 04:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Java Chip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he ever romantic at all?...normally guys are not romantic but you can make them be by taking the initiative...but loving him don't have anything to do with romanticism or not, you can love him still even if he is not because that is not his nature.
2007-02-15 04:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, all guys play it up top knotch in the beginning - they want to impress you and get with you - after they do - it all goes down hill, they are more relaxed. Did you tell him how you feel? You could explain what you like, I mean it won't hurt, everyone needs a little romance, **** you ain't a 90 year old lady! You need pizazz woman!!! Just try real hard to avoid the word "YOU". As in "you aren't romantic anymore, you don't love me the same as you used to..." Try....."hunny, I really wish things were more romantic between us like they used to be.....I really REALLY liked it that one time you............that meant alot to me." Try that doll and good luck!!!
2007-02-15 05:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rebekkah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone who doesn't want to be changed and you shouldn't want him to change. My boyfriend isn't all that romantic and I've expected that about him and love him for him. I don't want him to change for me and I feel in love with him because he is who he is and he wasn't romantic in the beginning and I won't change that about him. You shouldnt' change that about your boyfriend. If you fell for him when you knew he wasn't romantic in the beginning of your relationship then it shouldn't bother you. You should expect him for him and not try to change him.
2007-02-15 04:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things, you can try being romantic to him and hopes that he catches on. Or nag all the time.
I just did that and have noticed small progress, I think their either born with it, taught by someone or do it to win us and once they have us they slack....
Just remember your not alone!
2007-02-15 04:42:25 · answer #8 · answered by jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him become romantic. If he does it have that any more he needs to focus on you more and if he can't do that sorry to say but i don't you guys will last.
2007-02-15 04:44:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on the Jerry Springer Show.
2007-02-15 04:42:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋