My ex is with someone else, but yesterday she sent the most random email wishing me happy valentine's day attached with an old email I sent her a long time ago. I didn't respond back. Is she trying to mess with my head? Is she trying to keep me as a back up option? I am trying to move on, but she makes it so hard by doing crap like that. I think she's trying to keep me around in case her new relationship doesn't work, or is she just trying to be nice and caring? How can people be so cruel?
2007-02-15 04:31:45 · 19 answers · asked by Need Answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am in the same boat as you. She broke up with me 3 months ago. We talk every once in a while, but she actually sent a gift to my work a few days before Valentines. So to anwser your question Yes she is messing with you. All women mess with you. They may not know it but they are. It is like looking for a new job. They don't want to leave the job they have until the find another job. In your case she doesn't want to let go of her old job. Even when she has a new one. Good luck with that.
2007-02-15 04:43:10 · answer #1 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls are game players.
Your right she might be keeping you as a back up. AND if thats the case you did well by not emailing her back that would only give her fuel to power her evilness.
On the other hand she might miss you from time to time. I don't know the details about your break up so I can't say. Patience is required, I think she doesn't know what she wants, so she keeps her options open.
2007-02-15 04:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by jules 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is just SELFISH and wants your dick and paycheck if her current dick and paycheck don't work out. That is normal behavior for a selfish slut.
Now where do you come up with the she is trying to be nice and caring -- she's conning you into believing you that she is NOT a girly tramp and that she is a caring women. As a socity and you are an example of this, we are just bashful to realize that selfish tramps are what they are.
Your problem is that you were taughtt to respect women, what you were not taugh to do is tell the difference between a selfish girly tramp and a real women. Don't dip in the first ones (because you will get used and abused for life) and you marry the second ones.
2007-02-15 04:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way it sounds like you just answerd this question yourself. If you are trying to move on..MOVE on...the best thing you can do is cut off all contact with her which means not opening those emails she sends you...UNLESS you can handle being caught back in her possible trap of wanting to keep you around. It is hard sometimes to cut off ex's but truth be told, for some of us that is what needs to be done.
2007-02-15 04:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because u want to move on doesnt mean that you cant talk to someone, but wishing you valentines is weird. If the old email was a love letter type thing id be annoyed, but if she was just saying hi then she is just probably being nice.
2007-02-15 04:36:08 · answer #5 · answered by mathwizz83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the backup plan! Or plan "B"! Don't write her back! Move on! You don't need that crap in your life. Take a minute and think! If she was so nice and caring would she be doing this to the other guy? Did she send the other guy e-mails when you were together? She made her bed! Let her LIE in it!
2007-02-15 04:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.Know It All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a girl thing i guess. When a girl loves someone, its really difficult for us to stop loving them....she is experiencing the grass isn't always greener....
If you don't want to hear from her, i would block her messages from your email. Yahoo has that option. Ive had to do it from a few ex's as well. It was a big help in getting over someone.
Sorry for your hardships.....she just cared about you, and is putting her feelings first, and not thinking about yours.
2007-02-15 04:35:14 · answer #7 · answered by AnnieAdams 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not realize what she is doing. But you could be plan B if plan A does not work out.
You need to make a choice for yourself NOW. When her and the current relationship breaks up, she will be back.
What will you do and how will you handle it?
Can you handle getting back with her and being 2nd choice? Or will you tell her no thanks?
2007-02-15 04:35:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt sweat over it, unless you still want her back.
so she sends you an email, perhaps she is testing you to see how much of her thumb can be on you...perhaps she is psycho and gets her jollies off of this sort of mind game.
you did the right thing by not responding, block her email address so it wont happen again.
who needs to be reminded of old news that went sour?
2007-02-15 04:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal. She is one of those kind of girls that doesnt like to burn bridges. She doesnt realize that she is hurting you, she just doesnt want you to forget her, THATS what would hurt her the most. So, she's making herself feel better by not letting you completely go, and she probably doesnt realize that its holding you back.
You have to break free. Find another girl.
2007-02-15 04:36:21 · answer #10 · answered by The Date Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋