My ex and I have a duaghter together which i take care of. We have an agreement that he is supposed to pay me 100.00 every two weeks for child supoort. He has not been paying all off it and is behind 155. I've asked him to sign a piece of paper saying that he would pay 100 every two weeks and he could have her every other week end. He won't do that because of his work he can't get every other weekend off. I made a new agreement up that he pays 100 every two weeks and he can have her one day every week. This way it will work with his schedule at work. He said he has to think about it.
I don't know what else to do other than to go to child enforcement, I just don't want too because I know they would take a lot more than 100. every two weeks from him and I know he needs money too live on. What should I do?
2007-02-15 04:31:04 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I'm afraid to take him to court I don't want him to get custody of her. I don't work because she is not old enough to go to school so I home school her right now. My partner works and makes enough money to supoort us.
2007-02-15 04:44:02 · update #1
deer your daughter and you need that money to and I think if you were to go to court with him they would take what he can afford knowing that he needs money to live on to. And they would set up visitation that he needs to go to and follow along with child support. how old is your daughter 200 a month is not bad idea but if she is young you would need more then that. I just read your other info they wouldn't give him full custody because your not working you have someone else bringing in the money and your home schooling her which is ok even in the courts eyes as long as they see you as a fit mother they have no reason to give him full custody
2007-02-15 04:49:31 · answer #1 · answered by rosemommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything I have ever read about custody and child-support payments has indicated that the only way you can protect yourself is to go through the courts to make any changes. If you show that you cannot honor what the judge has decided is appropriate (by making your own new arrangements you in effect are disregarding a court order yourself) you are as guilty as your ex is in not upholding a court order.
You have to talk to the courts and arrange everything through them or it is all non-enforcable.
When you talk to the judge you can explain what you would like to do - $100 every 2 weeks and he takes your daughter one day a week. Just remember that the only way to make it gel legally is to go through the courts.
Good luck.
2007-02-15 04:43:36 · answer #2 · answered by PamV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply threaten him. let him know the court will make him pay a lot more than 200 a month. they will take it out of his pay if they have to. also let him know that you DONT want to have to do that and it would be best for the both of you if he just paid the 100 every 2 weeks.
you are being very cooperative and i praise you!!
2007-02-15 04:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by ishyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you trying to draft papers for him to sign?? Talk to a lawyer and at the very least get lawyer to draft papers. And if ex won't sign - take him to court. If you're too scared about custody and won't sue, you have no legal standpoint to complain about his lack of financial help.
2007-02-15 04:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by chicchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him to court!!!!! it is not right that you are raising your daughter and all he has to do is pay you 100.00 every 2 weeks and he cant even do that. dont be like most women who just let the men get away with it.
2007-02-15 04:35:31 · answer #5 · answered by lil mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be HONEST with him and tell him that if he doesn't agree to something and stick to it then he is forcing you to take more drastic measures. If he still doesn't agree then you should go to child enforcement and then he knew in advance that, that is what he was forcing you to do. Hang in there and all will work out. HONESTY IS THE BEST MEDICINE
2007-02-15 04:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not cooperating with you don't cooperate with him. tell him that if he doesn't do what u'r telling him u will take him to court and it's not going to be for his benefits. U are not asking for alot if i was him i would do it so i don't have to pay more.
If u're going to tell him that u are going to take him to court do it!!! don't change u're mind because if u do he is not going to take u serious when u tell him a next time!!!!
good luck!!!!
2007-02-15 04:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by ynra BTB 4-18-09 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋