depressed &5mth old baby..?

Question

i had my daughter in sept last yr was 20 wen i had her.. her dad left me wen i was preg coped great wen preg couldnt wait then all crumbled wasnt at all wat i expected total life changin really felt it wasnt for me,, shes 5 mnths old only beginning to enjoy avn her around now.. keep gettin panick attacks worrying about my health and so on keep feeelin dizzy and stuff iv gonee so paranoid i feel so horrible every 1 thinkd im copin but in side im actually goin loopy im afraid of wat i think.. doc prescribed me wit anti depressants but i wont take them as im afraid. madi no but wat do i do . i used be so out going always up 4 a joke and a laugh now i feel so trapped.

Answer 1

I just think you need a friend to talk to.Some of this stuff is normal after having a child early on.I had mine at 19 and 20.You worrying about your health is normal ,because if your not around who will take care of your daughter, and you probably at sometime had some bad thoughts in your mind at the time of depression about the baby and yourself,(like why me, I don't want this kid, I wish I was dead ,etc ) and know your enjoying having her around you probably are feeling like god will punish you.If this is the case relax we have all had bad thought at one time or another in are minds and don't mean them, and what you have said in the past or thought in the past, is in the past. Just be as good a mother now that you know how to be and that's all anyone can ask of you.Take the baby for a walk or go to the park or invite a friend to go walk around the mall with you and the baby.If you need someone to talk to I'm here, I know you don't know me , but I've been were your at, and it gets better believe me.Good luck

Answer 2

Please you really do need help I had mine children years ago and was lucky only know of ones who have had the feelings you are having YOU ARE NOT loopy far from it. Go back and see another doctor and have a good chat with them and also tell your health visitor and you will get help, maybe you could do with short term anti depressants until you get over this sticky patch cause that is what it is. You have had lots to cope with and yes this is the time you should be enjoying your baby and you know that as you are wise enough to even try and get advice on here for what it may be worth so again YOU ARE NOT loopy. Talking is good and communicating. I will not tell you to pull yourself together or that you are alone cause there IS help. I wish I really could help you and that I was qualified to help you, my advice is what I would give to those I know and care about. You take care now and as a Mum of adults here is a BIG HUG and even if you cry you can still smile through those tears. Good luck and take care. X

Answer 3

Having a baby is hard work and being on your own makes that job even harder. The only thing I would suggest is that you seriously consider taking the anti-depressants that your G.P prescribed for you. If you havew depression then it means you have too many neuro-transmitters coming into your brain...they make us feel very low and can cause anxiety like you wouldnt believe, in a word its a chemical inbalance and therefore doesnt repair itself and those tablets are designed to redress the balance that has gone wrong. No-one wants to take them (and I speak from experience as ive had post-natal depression twice now) but if you consider that Mums who have a loving supportive partner at home end up taking them because they feel down then its not a bad thing that as a single mum without that support you need them to lift you a bit. As for people thinking you are coping, I think thats the hardest part really, mums are supposed to cope so we often cant bear to admitt that things are a bit tough. But I strongly urge you to ask for any extra help if you need it and maybe try and go to a few mothers and tots groups where you may find another mum going through the same thing as you. You are bound to feel trapped.....a baby places restrictions upon anyone, but if you were very sociable beforehand then its bound to affect you, especially if you find that all your mates are still going out without you. I hope you feel better soon, but dont feel worried about taking the pills, it might take a while for them to start working but surely it'd be worth it to feel more like your old self? Take care x x

Answer 4

You definitely have postpartum depression. It's not at all uncommon to feel anxious and paranoid especially over your health or the well-being of your baby. I went through it every time and I've had 5 kids. I suggest you discuss with your doctor the possibility of trying a low dosage of an anti-anxiety drug. Obviously you can't take much because you have to care for the baby but you need something to help you relax and cope. I tried alot of different SSRIs and I had alot of problems on them. Alot of people have fantastic luck with them but I am a rare percentage that doesn't tolerate them. I already had depression and anxiety issues prior to pregnancy. You need to see if you have a friend or family member who can maybe help you with a few things at home and help you get started on your meds so you don't feel so scared. It's easier when you don't have to go it alone. I was left when I was pregnant with my first child so I know exactly how you feel. I was thrilled and then the bottom dropped out of my world and I felt like my skin was crawling and I had trouble coping...

I wish you the best of luck. The good news is that postpartum is usually temporary. Once your hormones level out you'll feel better...

Answer 5

try to be honest thats the first step for you...having a child is a mega life change and thats when you have support and you feel ok in yaself. Go back to your dr and be honest, they are not going to think you are crazy and they wont think anything less of you for being a mum and not coping too well.Talking will help and taking the pills wont make you feel much different as they are so mild that they take a while to kick in and then all they do is to make every day living ok, you wont feel super super happy or silly...maybe it'll remind you of how you felt before all this happened.You want to enjoy your daughter like everyone else can so get the help and it'll be fine. good luck

Answer 6

i have had anti depressents. you have nothing to be afraid of the idea of them is to give you a helping hand in making you feel better, it's a lot easier trying to deal with things if you are feeling more level headed, it's best to take 1 step at a time and making yourself feel better is the most important step, how can you cope with a baby if you yourself aren't feeling great, once the anti depressents have started kicking in then you can start dealing with other things, your baby will sense that you are unhappy so it's best for her aswell,
try talking to friends, family, other mothers, or you could try your gp or practice nurse, perhaps seek coucilling, i've done that too it ain't as bad as people make out it helped me.
you would be surprised how common post natel depression is and you probably feel worse because people have let you down and you will feel trapped, but like i said it has to be one step at a time it would be great if we could just click our fingers and all would be well, but life just ain't like that so just keep at it, try and treat yourself occasionally think about number one as well, then things will be a lot easier for you and baby.
but never give up and keep strong i wish you all the best

Answer 7

listen slow down and take a breath!!!! there ! you are down motherhood is very hard and sounds like you have post natal depression pretending to everyone your fine is not the way to get help be honest with your mum or a friend and go to the doctors the first step is admitting you are down ! you have had a shock a baby is soooo hard but theres help out there for you if you just take the first step and admit theres a problem best of luck and cherish that little one they dont stay small for long!

Answer 8

The anti-depressants you get these days are not as addictive as the old ones you used to get, and they dont have that much side-effects. Please start to take them, they will help you. Talk to your health visitor about things, thats what they are there for. Contact Gingerbread, its a group especially for single parents and they are great. What ever you do, do not lose hope in everything, as things can only start to look up now.

Answer 9

I think you should take the medication - I've taken antidepressants and they do help. Also maybe you should try and get out more, mother and baby groups perhaps or get a babysitter and go out with friends so that you have a break from the baby and get to be yourself again. Good luck xx

Answer 10

try to realize that living is just one day at a time it sounds like you are overwhelming yourself with living just relax and know that we all are going through different things dont make life any harder than it is/it is just that you need reassurance that all is going to be ok/do you have anyone you can tell how you are feeling a friend,relative or someone let them read what you have posted then set and talk with them i will bet your daughter is a lovely baby dont worry everything will be ok...........good luck and God Bless