my b/f has times( depression I think ) were he thinks he wants to be alone . He tells me that he doesnt love me anymore and wants me to find someone else. I love him with all my heart and I know he fels the same, but getting through to him when he is like this is impossible. I dont want to lose him, maybe if he logs on and reads your replies he will realise what he is losing out on.
2007-02-15 04:20:27 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is a bloke thing - stick with him if you love him, otherwise let him go!!
2007-02-15 05:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by saintee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His depression can bring you down. Even though you love this man with all of your heart, it is unhealthy to stay in a one sided relationship. A man really never realizes what he has until it is gone so i suggest that you two just take a small break. If it was meant to b- then it will be, but there is no sense going crazy yourself over his things. Maybe he has some personal issues he needs to work through before he can be the one for you.
Let him go. I know it is hard, but trust me from experience, it is better to let him go than to hang around living on the what if's for the rest of your life. Dont push the envelope on him staying with you because that will only push him farther away.
good luck!
2007-02-15 04:26:11 · answer #2 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are someone's pet yoyo or bungee cord! Tell him to get sorted or you will bugger off for good. It sounds like he has a conflict of heart and head...If one is running dodgy, it can seriously damage the other. Maybe some counceling or one-to-one may help. You must make him understand that you hurt as much as he does, if not more, when he starts the mind-games.
Think very carefully...
This is to him if he does decide to read this:
Get sorted, mate. Before something precious gets flushed down the privvy of life!
2007-02-15 04:45:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey sweetie, it shouldn't be up to us or you to convince him on what he is missing out on, i hate to be devils advocate but if he keeps doing this maybe its what he wants. and at the end of the day the only way he can be sure of doing whats right for him is to listen to his own instincts. if you seem unable to get through to him maybe its because he doesn't want a relationship for a while, maybe the best thing to do would be to let him go and sort himself out, maybe when he is in a better frame of mind he will realise he does want to be with you, but there are no guarantees. i hate to say it but i think you need to hear the truth you need to get a grip and stop thinking about yourself and let him have a life, it sounds as if you maybe a bit suffocating and if he is having problems you "trying to get through to him" all the time isn't helping anyone.
2007-02-15 04:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suffer from depression and so do a lot of other people but we don't treat someone we are supposed to love like that!! I think you need to seriously think about whether you can keep putting up with that c**p? He is taking the p**s out of you,and you are accepting it.Maybe next time he finishes with you then you shouldn't take him back.Ditch him and move on-there are tons of guys out there that will treat you better!!
2007-02-15 05:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by munki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may need counseling and/or medication for his depression. Suggest he see someone to get his moods under control. Rollercoaster relationships like that aren't fun and no matter how much you "love" someone, will eventually wear on you to the point where throwing in the towel is preferable to continuing on the ride.
2007-02-15 04:24:57 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
next time when he tells u to get someone else,do it! if he goes crazy and comes crawling to u asking u to get back together if u really love him ok,do that then...when he sees that u are ready to leave him maybe he will stop being like that and he will stop saying stupid things like that...im just worried that maybe when he tells u he doesnt love u he really means it...i mean if someone loves u he loves u all the time.. (this answer is just an option if u really want to stay with him,if i was you,i'd dump him along time ago...u desirve better cause if his acctions and things he tells u make u sad than thats not love...)
2007-02-15 04:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by girlxxx86 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am just that like that bf, except I'm the female, but anyway.
No one can love you if he can't love himself.
Love means getting help- and I'm waiting for Medicaid b/c my depression has left me unable to work and get benefits. (Of course, once I get it, I should be OK to get a job, and bye-bye therapy and any meds they shove dwon my throat, so Catch this 22!)
Now, if he doesn't get help, he relaly doesn't feel that way about you, and you need to move on. No one is going to get better because YOU want him to.
Protect yourself, hon. Either he gets help, or you leave.
And don't ever look back.
2007-02-15 04:25:44 · answer #8 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hi b/f you ,may have depression! who knows only a doc but you can check into counceling you know exspressing your secrets and your feelings let it out you may hold everything inside which that is bad real bad and next time when your feeling blue think of something funny try to teach yourself and your mind to get over what ever your thinking about its all in your head it can be tricky but you have a conscience it will let you know and if you say you dont have one well thats bad too everyone has one just listen to it its there
2007-02-15 04:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by SANDIE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he is depressed then he needs to se his gp. if he does not wish to go to his gp then explain to him that his depression is also affecting you and your self esteem. let him know that you love him and every time he leaves you you get incredibly hurt. maybe the prospect of losing you will give him the kick he needs to get to the doctors. hope all goes well and he gets the help that you both need to save your relationship. xx
2007-02-21 19:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by meadow07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could suggest that maybe he see a doctor who could help with any despressiong. I dont think that he's breaking it off with your to try and hurt you... in fact i think he's trying to stop you from getting hurt by not dragging you down with him. maybe he thinks that seeing him this way would make you feel that way too or that he thinks he doesn't deserve you. if you really love him then stand by him and try to get him some help.
2007-02-21 07:26:35 · answer #11 · answered by Siany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋