My fiancee and I have been together for nearly a year and a half. I've just switched from a parttime job that worked me 15 hours a week to a fulltime job that works me 40. I also started college, which I go to 6 hours a week. It's a very difficult class and it gives me ALOT of homework. Lately my fiancee has been complaining about not giving him enough attention, and he's been extremely aggressive and mean. He also doesn't like the male attention that I receive from this new job, and he's been pretty stressed lately over a few things. Could this be the reason he's acting this way? I've tried to talk to him about it, but he tells me that I am the exact same way with him. I'm getting very fed up with the way he treats me, but I'm realizing that this could be a 2-way street! How can I improve the way I treat him, but also stand up to the way he's treating me and let him know that his behavior is unacceptable.
2007-02-15 04:19:04 · 7 answers · asked by Shana L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. If you plan on telling me to leave him then don't bother. I'm not the type of person who runs away as soon as trouble hits! What I want is advise and tips on how to improve. Not only that, he's definately not a bad guy. He just hasn't been his usual self.
2007-02-15 04:21:43 · update #1
you need to flat out tell him how you feel. you need to tell him about the stress with the job, college, and even him. you need to ask him how he would feel if he was in your shoes. ok? you don't need to leave him. if someone says that, they are dimwits. love is tough, and you need to work on it to make it work.
2007-02-15 04:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by christi t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put aside time for the two of you. If he thinks its too little and thats all you can afford he needs to understand that you can't put your life on hold or sacrifice your future. But you can't sacrifice your love either. If you know in your heart that it is unfair to him you need to way the conequences of being without him or your career. It's your decision.
2007-02-15 12:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by lalaland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try talking to him again. Talk calmly and don't try to blame him, tell him how you feel and reasure him that he's got nothing to worry about and that you love him and only him. He just feels a bit neglected, so all you gotta do is boost up his ego a little bit. Good luck with everything.
2007-02-15 12:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Aphrodite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i belive u real need to talk & tell him how u trully feel,make him aware of your loyality to him and that u are not interested in other guys but him.tell him of you devotion to him and also your academic life.let him know that you are aware that this is straining your relationship but what u most need from him now is his support & patience.Let him know that you truly love him.if you alone cannot convince him enough ask someone whom he normaly confides in & trust,ask him/her to help u talk him over or ask him to go for councelling together.whatever you do dont let yourself to argue your point with him because that will only create more problems.
goodluck
2007-02-15 12:39:13 · answer #4 · answered by loveguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set aside special time just for the two of you.
2007-02-15 12:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your man needs to grow up.
2007-02-15 12:25:45 · answer #6 · answered by hhfe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may need some counseling on this matter. Just a thought.
2007-02-15 12:26:53 · answer #7 · answered by bigfree_2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋