everything was going great until a few months ago when i started to pick fights with him constantly (i was on the pill and it had bad side effects). 2 weeks ago we got into a big fight (we were fine before that) and he said he wanted out of the relationship. he said he didn't have the energy to constantly fight with me and i was always getting on his nerves. after a ten day break, i realized that i was obsessed and rude to him. we had messed up our friendship. i contacted him after our ten day agreement not to call or text each other and he's still hesitant to start over. i know he's having problems at other places too like his university (we're both undergrads). but i don't know what to do? i don't want to put any pressure on him but i really want to slowly rebuild our relationship again. we loved each other so much that i can't imagine letting him go. he's agreed to trying again but he's not too enthusiastic. how do i deal with him?
2007-02-15 04:05:59 · 9 answers · asked by sara a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it time...don't call him all the time and give him his space. If your ment to be together then you will be.
2007-02-15 04:09:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Have make up sex!! J/K
What you have to do is work it out little by little. Is amazing how it takes so much time to build up something but only a split second to ruin it.
I think the first step is to give him a call, and go get together in a semi-public place. Maybe go have dinner, or go to a park or the beach. Just agree there will be no fights no matter what on this “date”. Both of you must swear it for the most precious thing in your lives. This is very important. You two must stay calm and “cool” no matter what is said.
Sit down, and promise to each other again there is going to be no fights today. And also that you two will be honest. Then, talk about the relation what you like and don’t like of each other, what you want to change, what you don’t really want to change, etc, etc. Is an adult conversation trying to find solutions.
Communication is the key for a healthy relation, and that might be what you guys need. You want to stay; he probably wants the same but is afraid to keep on being hurt. If you think the pills were a big influence on the problem (changed your mood) than do not take them anymore. Ask the doctor to give you a different prescription (and explain why you want it so he might know a better one for this case).
Make sure you tell him about it too, even tell him that he can go with you if he wants to the doctor just as a symbol of how much you trust him, and how much you want him to be part of your life.
Good luck.
PS. You can have some make up sex anyways. It is always fun and can bring two souls together.
2007-02-15 12:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he's not enthusiastic. Constant fighting will drive off most men. All you can do now is take it one day at a time. Talk to your doctor about other birth control. Sounds like the pill isn't working out for you.
I had severe mood changes when I was on the pill. It didn't seem to matter what dose I took.
Good luck! I hope you both can work it out.
2007-02-23 08:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you've written, his behaviors during this difficult time have not been very supportive! For starters, anyone who says they don't have the "energy to constantly fight," and that YOU'RE "getting on HIS nerves" does not respect you as a human being. I could go on, but as long as you understand this basic concept and how important it is to relationships, you can figure out the rest.
Be thankful this set of events has happened! Don't walk -- RUN --in the opposite direction from this guy. His behaviors and actions have told you all you need to know about him....his immaturity, his loss!
One of the best books I've found is "Red Flags: How to Know If You're Dating a Loser." Read it!
You deserve better! Good Luck!
2007-02-23 05:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by pentora 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think u have realised ur mistake by now n try to make up with him. Be very polite with him and assure him there will be no second such case in your relationship. All the best!
2007-02-15 12:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by angela_hsiung 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take all your crazy womanly instincts to fuss over every little thing and throw them out the window, make up your mind now that you will be with him, you will get along and train yourself to choose your battles more wisely, when i get ill at mine i think about how much worse it could be by comparing to my friends problematic relationships and constantly remind yourself of the good things he does, you will eventually start to find things humorous rather than annoying if you truly love him
2007-02-15 12:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him a little more time, dont push so hard.it will be ok
2007-02-23 11:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is ready to move on.... So should you.
2007-02-15 12:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by Tommygrande 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TAKE IT SLOW..LIKE HOW YOU DID WHEN YOU GUYS FIRST GOT TOGETHER
2007-02-23 04:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by lata 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋