I am 7 months pregnant and my husband never babys me. I clean up after him like crazy, I give him a massage almost every night and I cook for him. He just seems to take me for granite. Yesterday we both were home from work and he asked me why I had not yet carried in any wood for the stove. I repeat I am 7 MONTHS PREGNANT!! I don't really need to be carrying heavy loads of wood into the house, I could get hurt. He acts like this all the time though. What can I do to make him care more? (He is excited about the baby though)
2007-02-15 03:47:26 · 22 answers · asked by Loves2Snuggle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The first thing for you to realize is that this is the way he is going to be when the baby comes. I think you need to talk to him and set some clear divisions of labor. Define what jobs are "yours" and what jobs are "his". It might be good for him to come with you to a doctor's appointment so he can hear, straight from the doctor, what are appropriate activites for you to engage in and what aren't. The time to do it is now, not when you have been up all night with a baby.
2007-02-15 03:52:22 · answer #1 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you yesterday I would have turned the question around to him and asked him why he hadn't carried in some wood yet. Then I would have reminded him that you are the one 7 month pregnant, not him and that you require some help around the house. Don't put up with him not doing anything if you need help or want help directly ask him for it. You are carrying his child and he should be more than willing to help you out.
2007-02-15 04:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not your mommy or daddy, why should he baby you?
You are not the first woman to ever have a baby and despite the media lies, you are not in a "delicate" condition.
Women used to go out into the fields pregnant and work right up until they delivered the baby. It's a natural part of life and you deserve no special treatment for it. He should take care of you now the same way he did before you got pregnant.
There is no reason you can't perform your normal household duties. You may have to make more trips because you can't carry the same amount of wood at one time, but that shouldn't stop you from doing it if that's your job to do.
My advice is to get over it. This is your marriage, you and your husband have responsibilities to perform in your marriage, now do it.
2007-02-15 03:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Need i remind you that if you dont stop this now you will be raising the kid you had and the kid you married.And that baby excitment will wear off a little after birth, but guess what!!!! you're going to be doing all the work until 18. It's like a forest fire, only you can prevent it. And if you decide to just deal with it that's cool but after a few more years you may realize the error of your ways.
2007-02-15 04:51:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sat and watched you, @ 7 months pregnant, carry in wood??? WHY do you let him treat you like this? Girl, be prepared cause when the baby gets here, you are on your own. He sounds like the type to complain because the baby is crying...Good luck.
2007-02-15 04:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by Pam C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going stuff like carrying in the wood and tell him "Hey I'm pregnant, I can't carry heavy loads or whatever it maybe."
2007-02-15 03:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by mark my words 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that he is a lazy azz. Was he like this before you got pregnant? If so why would you think things would change? And if not why are you still doing things for him when you know for a fact that he wont do them for you? You are a woman act like a woman! You don't need to be "babied" you are starving for attention! Big difference!
2007-02-15 03:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The Muslim yearns for the moment when he becomes a shahid and dates 72 virgins in the course of one night.
This is reserved for the very devout only. Perhaps your husband would be interested.
2007-02-15 03:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by Arafat 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
We are treated the way we show people to treat us. If you are showing your husband that he can continually push you around and give you orders, then that's what he's going to do. Stand up for yourself! If you don't like the reaction - stop the action!
2007-02-15 04:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by socmum16 ♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks like there's goin 2 be 2 kids in the house
just remind him the milk's 4 the baby
2007-02-15 03:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋