is she worth it or am i getting no where?

Question

I really like this gal in my class im currently 17 and so is she obviously, but ive been thinking if its really worth the effort anymore ive been rejected so many times in the past i cant see why i should make an attempt with this person,
1) we have difficulty talking at school and in social events
2) on msn when we talk conversations are limited and its always me trying to start the conversation off. where as she used to talk a lot on msn to me but still not a lot at school
3) i was told she was out of my league and all and that i shouldnt make an effort

I dont wanna ask her out on a date in fear she will just turn it down like all the rest in the past not to mention she isnt really showing signs from what my friends say aswell, ive tried complimentin her sometimes and she was like aww thanks thats really cute and stuff, never got anything remotely like that back, she only spoke to me on 2 occasions and that was for helping her with some stuff. I feel lost please help me :) ty all.

Answer 1

if you ask her out and she says no, at least you know then she isnt worth the effort!

Answer 2

I can't say whether or not she's into you b/c I don't see the situation, but I would say that if you like her, then go for it. What's the worst that can happen, she will say no and you are in the same spot that you are right now, not with her, except you can move on from her easier. If she says yes, then you'll be happy you asked. You can't live your life always wondering what if. I understand that you have been rejected a lot in the past and it hurts, but you can only grow from that experience and it will make you stronger and more confident. Don't let anyone tell you that someone is out of your league, b/c, as they say, beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Look around you and you will see truth to that statement. You'll see girls with weird looking dudes and think that girl is out of his league, but he showed the confidence and asked her out and got her. Women aren't like men for the most part, they look past a guys looks and are more into the person. I hope this helps and I really think you should just give it a shot b/c you'll never know then. Don't let others drag you down, do what YOU want to do and if that means ask this girl out even if she may reject you, then at least you'll know how she feels.

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel. A few months ago i was in the same situation as you are in now. The best thing to do is to just tell her how you feel. The worst that could happen is that she doesn't feel the same way. It will hurt a bit if she turns you down. But in the end it will all work out. Who knows she may say that she doesn't want to be in a relationship but that she would like to be friends. which isn't bad at all. Because by being friends you can get to know her and get to see if she is really someone you would want to have a relationship with. Besides your 17, you have A LONG TIME to be worrying about stuff like that. Im 20, and I get that way sometimes. But then I just step back and say to myself, that it's not the end of the world that someone isnt in to me like that. My time will come. Which is true for you. Your time will come. Just give it time. Im gonna tell you like people tell me when I get that way. You will find someone when your no longer looking. Because THAT PERSON will find you. So just relax and just tell her how you feel. If you need to talk to someone email me at [e-mail]


Peace,
Ashley

Answer 4

First of all, you sound as though you have serious self esteem problems. Everyone gets rejected, most of us more times than we can count. You have to learn to take it in stride. You are still a person, unique and capable, who deserves the same as everyone.
As for her, there are two distinct possibilities. She may be shy and not prone to talking with anyone she likes or at least finding it difficult to do so. The second is that she doesn't like you in that way. The only way to ever know is to ask. Try something simple and slow. Ask her to lunch or to meet at the mall. Something of that nature will give you time to get to know her and possibly lead to a relationship.
Whatever the outcome is, remember that your happiness is the most important thing. Don't let other rule your life by telling you who you can see or what you can't do.

Answer 5

Dude, just have a crack at it! Whats the worst that can happen? If she says say no, don't get hung up about it, at least you'll know how she feels and you'll know for certain if your wasting your time! However if she says yes? well, you never know what could happen.
Looking back, sometimes I wish I'd taken a few more chances when I was at school. Its better to regret doing something than to regret doing nothing at all.
Best of luck mate, I'll be rooting for ya!

Answer 6

You should never feel like someone is out of your league. Show some confidence... The only way for you to have a relationship with anyone is to take the chance. Rejection suck but when it finally happens for you, it makes it that much sweeter. Good Luck

Answer 7

It could be that she enjoys your friendship but she just wants to concentrate on her schoolwork right now. Or maybe she doesn't feel like you to do. You are going to have to ask her if she is at all interested in getting a coffee for a few minutes and if not why? If she tells you her reasons really listen, it could just mean that she is not ready for a realationship or maybe she has ended a bad one and wants to take it really slow. Either way you still have a friend. Life is too short to live with regret. Take care Heather

Answer 8

I think the best thing for you to do is ...leave her alone for a little while & let her come after you. Everybody wants what they can't have, and it sounds as though you've handed yourself to her on a silver platter. If you really want to know if she's interested - just back off. A lot of girls love having men chase them but when the chase stops then they come running after the man.

Answer 9

She may be quite shy herself and not sure of how to act. From my own experience as a girl when I was that age I was always careful how I behaved and did not want to be accused of leading someone on.
Also men should do the wooing and its good practice so go for it

Answer 10

I'd love to say persue her..she'll come around..but maybe not...if she is just being nice, don't do it..She'll feel uncomfortable, and you'll feel sad. Just see if there can be a friendship first.

Good luck...you sound like a good person!

Answer 11

When you get rejected just move on to the next girl. Go ahead and ask her out.