Everything was going fine, then monday she told me that she wanted some time to think. She got out of a 7 year abusive realationship mid last year. We started dating about 6-8 months after that.
Does she realy just need some time or is there no chance in hell of us getting back together.
Just curios on what I should do or not do.
Thanks for the help
2007-02-15 03:37:08 · 17 answers · asked by striderknight2000 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that doesn't mean that its over between you to it means that she needs some time to get herself together to see if you the one for her or wateva probably because she see that you not doing the same thing that her other guys were doing
2007-02-15 03:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by zorin l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. After a 7 year long relationship that wasnt very good would you want to take a chance on getting serious within the next year?
My advice:
Give her some time and space. The BEST thing you could do right now, is to tell her that you're her friend Firsta and foremost, and if she needs you for anything, you'll be there. Tell her, if she only needs you as a friend, then a friend you will be.
2007-02-15 11:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by The Date Doctor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she does need some time to think because well like u said she had just gotten out of a 7 YEAR ABUSIVE relationship thats something thats hard to forget but my question is that if its that why would she start dating someone else if she still was affected from that other relationship. she has to make up her mind and decide whether shes going to try to forget about that other guy if not theres no reason for u to be with her if shes just going to be having thoughts about the abusive guy. talk to her and help her out if this is the problem..tell her that u are going to be there for her when she needs you...(if u really love her)
2007-02-15 11:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the middle of last year was roughly 8 months ago. So you started dating anywhere from 2 months ago until right now? So you haven't dated her long at all.
I think she really just needs time. If you sense a connection there that you really believe is long-term, I'd at least put it out there that you'll be there for her to talk to if/when she's ready, make sure she has all your contact info, and then make it clear you are waiting for her to contact you. Maybe she will, maybe she won't, but I think that's about all you can do. If you try to force things, you are asking for trouble.
2007-02-15 11:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by Jed R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give her the time she needs. The best thing you can do is to be there for her when she needs you. She may well be having a difficult time adjusting after a long abusive relationship. The last thing she needs now is to be pushed by you. Let her know that you care for her and will be there when she is ready.
2007-02-15 11:41:35 · answer #5 · answered by fly guy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would give her some time. But maybe send her a little card every now and then, let her know you are thinking about her. Don't call to pressure her. If she found someone else, she would not want to hear from you. In the mean time, you go out there and start seeing someone else if you are up to it.
2007-02-15 11:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Pluto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if i were u i would just talk to her. By wut u said the past realationship has scarred her and this might cause her to have mood swings alot. So i would say she needs to think about it. so just give her time if she really cares about u she will come back 2 u sooner or later.
2007-02-15 11:48:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take time mate, ask her if she is still wants to be with you, but tell her to take her time. have a look at my question about whay women go with bad guys then want to be with a nice guy.
you sound like a nice guy and you want to help, but time is the best thing you can give her.
2007-02-15 11:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by funknomega 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait and give her a call in a couple weeks to check in on her. Ask her if you can go get some coffee together and work on it from there.
2007-02-15 11:41:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give her space maybe she is afraid to move to the next level. she is probably thinking of all kinds of **** especially since her last man was abusive but probably nice at the start.
2007-02-15 11:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋