I found my stepson's myspace profile and his user name was "stoner*******" and everything was weed. I showed his dad the page and like me, he was appalled. He told bio mom about the page. The page mysteriously disappeared a couple of days later, but I found her blogsite and she posted on it that I had a fit about his page....duh?
If your child or stepchild had a page like that, would you be concerned? Or would you be more concerned about who had found it or saw it?
2007-02-15 03:24:09 · 11 answers · asked by mark my words 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think it is like my husband said, she didn't care what he does as long as we don't catch him doing it on her time. And as for a fit, I didn't say anything, my husband did.
2007-02-15 03:38:44 · update #1
HE'S A KID! He doesn't get to play the "you snooped through my stuff" card! Besides, it's a public profile on the friggin internet! If he didn't want the wrong people to see it, he shouldn't have posted it on the internet! As a parent you have every right to know what your child is doing every minute of every day. He can be upset all he wants and his mother can defend this rotten behavior all she wants. But right is right and wrong is wrong. At least your husband (his father) supports you in seeing that this was unacceptable. Personally I would kick the crap out of my girls if they posted DRUGS on their profile page at age 16!
2007-02-15 03:32:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned that the page was evidence that my stepchild was doing a drug, not concerned with who saw the page. You had every right to be concerned, and his mother's reaction to your concern shows that, at least in this area of her son's life, she doesn't care and that is appalling. Of course you had a "fit" about the page. Any good parent, or step-parent, would.
EDIT: To your additional info, it's probably best that your husband was the one to say something, as he is the child's biological father and knows the boy's mother very well. I wouldn't have blamed you if you would've been the one to say something though. It sounds like you stepson's mother doesn't really give a crap about what her son does. Someone needs to, and if that someone or someone(s) are you and your husband then so be it.
2007-02-15 03:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 04:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have a fit about the page. This child is on the path for self destruction. My 21 year old son started with pot at 14. I did everything to keep him off of it. One councelor told me he had no problem with it, pot was good for depression. I fired the councelor. My son still smokes cannot keep a job. Pot destroys ambition and leads to other drugs. You and your husband need to step in and do something before it is too late. She or someone did get rid of the page but the comment she made was uncalled for. What is her mental age?
2007-02-15 03:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by lizzybit64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 15 years old and i would really be concerned.
The first thing that might come to your mind is is he on drugs?
The second is how can i tell?
well,
1. see how much time he spends with his friends?
A. if he spends alot of his time with his friends.
then there a good chance he might?
2. How much time does he spend out of the house?
A. if alot then there is a possible chance.
3. Is he skipping school or classes alot?
A. if so he really might be
4. when you wash his clothes if you do, does his shirts tend to have a distinct strong and almost choking smell to it far worst then musk
A. if so it is weed you are smelling
Now if all of my answers turn out to be the opposite then he may have put the background up to lure more myspacers to his web page and gain more friends.
2007-02-15 03:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by herbinator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that since itis your stepson and you already raised the matter you shouldn't make it your problem anymore as both his biological parents are still alive. It is disappointing what I am saying but we cannot control everything even if it is a good cause. He should learn his lesson and it is going to be the hard way unfortunately.
2007-02-15 03:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Jay C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
take a deeeeeep breath
ok look I rather doubt he's a pot head I mean there are obvious side effects from that ****. In the culture today, to be cool, teens make a lot of drug references.
woah man, Im so hiiiiiiiigh
when really, they haven't slept for 72 hours no kidding ur high, anyway,
its just a teen thing. we dont really know what we're talking about. I ask my friends if they are on coke/heroin/acid everyday.
personally, I wouldnt worry
I'd be more like,
dude, grow the **** up ok? want to get REALLY high? try doing school work for 24 hours straight! i'll time you boy! MOVE IT!
2007-02-15 04:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Eurale 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would be ...... but, 16 is the age to start experimenting.... maybe keep a closer look or talk with him...maybe hes not comfortable talking with parents. There is a reason he is doing it. If the parents would keep him entertained some othere way, such as sports, there wouldnt be that problem. Maybe some discipline?! Or it could be aphase....as long as hes not ditching school or anything like that...it should be fine!
2007-02-15 03:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well thank goodness somebody had a fit about it. Keep a closer eye on the kid when he is with you. He needs someone in his life to actually care about him. His mom must be a real loser.
2007-02-15 03:34:41 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another wasted youth, he'll probably be living at home till he's 30.
2007-02-15 03:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by iamlgnd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋