first i hear he's cheating, then he says he wasn't.then 2day he was suppose to come by me, and then i get a text sayn he can't make it.what the F*#k sould I believe?I was literally tearing down the place and crying and stuff. Life suckS!!! What should I do...really what should I do?!!!!!!!!
2007-02-15 03:12:31 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you dont trust him...dump him
2007-02-15 03:15:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i had this prob myself first you find out who those ppl are to him and see if thay have a reason for wht there saying also if i get this it was only a day maybe somthing really has came up but know me as a girl who has had this prob myself thats not exzactly what i would want to hear look all u have to do i wait a few more days if it seems like he's shying away from u or spending less time with u for other things somthing might be up i think almost the whole population of guys are scum and never will be anything but but yes wait a few more days or a week and if he's sliping or moving away then consider it u can never be to safe i hope this helps u out i really do the best of luck to u
2007-02-15 03:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by twistedlove10204 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, is ask yourself, if he is cheating, then what? Kind of have all your scenerios together and then sit his azz down and talk to him. If you are not satisfied with what he is telling you, then break from him. Lack of Trust, plus lack of communication is a TRUE ending to ANY relationship. Life does not suck, its just a little trying right now for you, but trust me you will get through it. Now that you have almost tore down the place and cried and stuff, now it is time to get your head together and comfort him. Good Luck!
2007-02-15 03:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he is not available u need to find something to do in ur own spare time instead of wasting it on what he's doing...u cant go off what other people say cuz the minute u do that and he's not really doin nuthing, u be done destroyed the trust that was there and he wouldnt want an insecure woman like that...I know I wouldnt...so until u catch him doin something, let him come to you..give him his space since he so busy, but if u dont see him while giving him his space then find somebody or a hobby to keep u busy...somebody will find ur time valuable, even u can find urself valuable on ur own...try not to be clingy...theres nuthing worse than being clingy...
2007-02-15 04:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by shawntelli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what happens, you need to BACK UP and breathe, just breathe. You are hurt and confused and NO MATTER WHAT, you need some time and perspective. Don't take his poor actions personally, if only through the weekend. BE UNAVAILABLE to him. Aren't you worth giving this some space so you can back up and see [and feel] more clearly. A real man will not torture you with confusion. I promise you baby.
2007-02-15 03:16:30 · answer #5 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont cry baby. the tears are not his. neither are they mine but i cant see people crying for those who dnt deserve that much attention. just confront him. ask him coolly. if u have ven a little bit of brain left, you will be able to judge by his reactions whether he is genuine or not. then its your call. perhaps you should read a column by the name 'games people play'. good luck and dump the cheapster. and listen, preserve those tears for 'the one'.
2007-02-15 03:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have PROOF he was cheating, other than what you have "heard"? So he told you he couldn't see you? So what? There IS life beyond you...the world doesn't revolve around YOU. What you should do is get over yourself and stop listening to what you "hear" and pay attention to what is in front of you.
2007-02-15 03:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont worry>.... U need to stop acusing him of things, because the more you accuse him the more your going to bug him and he'll want to push u away and leave u.... U got to learn to trust him or he wont want to be with u and then he'll really cheat on u or leave u
2007-02-15 03:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Adrianna N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't rely on other people to tell you what he is up to, they could be jealous of your relationship and could be lying to you... maybe he couldn't really make it??? Trust me, I've been in these situations before and trusted the wrong people...
Go to his place (just pitch up and surprise him) if he is genuinely happy to see you, you're fine... if not... then start asking questions...
2007-02-15 03:20:30 · answer #9 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to look for the answers yourself, don't just rely on people that says he's cheating. And please, don't tear the place down.
2007-02-15 03:17:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
break it off
if you think he is cheating he maybe you also maybe too clingy in his mind and he is pushing you away either way you need to be free to find someone who treats you the way you want to be treated
2007-02-15 03:19:36 · answer #11 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋