I'm an attractive bi racial 21 year old. why are most guys my age afraid of me? and how can i make it stop?

Question

like they see what i am capable of with my attitude and good looks and are scared to get involved with me? why? and what can i do to be more approachable?

Answer 1

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I KNOW what you are talking about. I'm biracial too: Korean/Black.
I'll tell you what the situation is. From the men's perspective, pretty women are a sign of "high maintenance". They also suggest, which is true, that they will receive non-stop attention when in public. That's almost too much for a guy IF he is insecure himself. Many of the guys that you've encountered that have been shy this way - are insecure to begin with.
Most pretty women, like yourself, end up settling for someone JUST to say that they have someone on a daily basis.
You'll end up investing FAR too much energy/time in those guys.
Be strong, trust in yourself, and be interested in guys who have confidence.
This usually means that they have direction and purpose - in MOST cases.
Nothing wrong with your attitude unless you come off pompus. If not, don't sweat it cause they are (in essence) telling you they are not good enough for you.

One love, Bay-girl.

Answer 2

Smile a lot. Smiling is contagious. Beautiful women that smile a lot and are outgoing are usually perceived as being more approachable. I am 45 and have been around the block a few times...I only dated beautiful women in my younger years when I was single and I can tell you that your personality and attitude will make a huge difference. I usually stayed away from the beautiful women that had shield ups, did not smile and were hard to talk to. There were too many other hot and sexy women that were approachable than for me to waste my time with a cold woman with her defense mechanism on. Do you smile a lot and are you outgoing? Maybe you are already these things, I don't know. But my guess is that you are not because if you smiled a lot and are outgoing, you would not be asking the question today.

Answer 3

Well being so full of yourself is a big turn OFF. They don't want to get involved with you because they know you are TROUBLE. Try not being so stuck on yourself. That may just work. Also what does being BI RACIAL have to do with anything. Does anyone really care that you are bi racial.

Answer 4

Lulu? It's a fact of Life, that alot of Guys, put Ladies on the Image Meter. They do it, until they become real Adults. You need to hold your Horses. ans let yourself grow old enough to be with an Adult. And you're still not ready. Even if you think so. Your Man is out there. Just be patient. Impatience can make for some real rough time. Love yourself. Of no one else will.

Answer 5

For starters how bout if u bring your slef confidence down, or at least keep it to yourself. Personally when a girl, even if she is good looking starts saying she is good looking, I automatically see her ugly. Trust me, there is somoene else a lot better looking than you, so just be quiet on that part.

That will make you more aproachable. With your attitude part, well you really didnt give details on what exactly you do that keeps them away....hmmm, maybe you are not THAT attractive?

Answer 6

Yeh what the first guy said, date men not boys and come to Australia instead !

Answer 7

Come to Australia

Answer 8

try to control your attitude...
nobody likes attitude...whether your bi racial or not...

Answer 9

go for older guys with less hang ups

Answer 10

change your attitude