Frustrated with close family member -- what should I do?

Question

I referred a close family member for a job at the company I work for and she got it. Now, after a week she doesn't like it and is going to quit as soon as she can find another job. I've only been there 9 months, but it's the best job I've ever had. The owner's cardinal rule is honesty and I feel somewhat obligated to let him know what's going on, but then again it would cause a lot of hard feelings in the family, especially if she is unable to find another job and ends up staying.

Also, how should I handle things on the personal side with our family relationship? I feel betrayed and used, but she's barely speaking to me now. I really thought I was doing her a favor.

Answer 1

Honesty, the best policy, but start with your family member. Tell her about the position she put you in and let her know you really like (love) this job and would appreciate it if she would be honest with the boss and let them know it's not the job for her and she's looking, if not you feel obligated to. She put you in this position, first by asking that you help her get the job and now by telling you she's going to quit, she needs to own up to the mess. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

1.) She's got no reason to be mad at you, you've done nothing but help her get a job. Let her know how you feel about this whole deal.
2.) Tell her the boss' policiy on honesty. It's up to her to come clean with the boss about her dissatisfaction with the job.
3.) Tell her and the boss (if she talks to the boss or resigns) that you're sorry that it wasn't a good match for the business. Acknowledge that it was a mistake, and re-assure the boss that you won't refer family or friends to the job unless he asks you to.

Answer 3

Chalk this one up to personal experience. NEVER sell cars to family members, and NEVER get them a job where you work. Simple as that. If she quits then she quits. Wait a few weeks, and if you're comfortable then you can talk with your boss about it after she's gone. Explain to him that you thought you were doing her AND the company a favor. But that ultimately you learned a very valuable lesson about putting YOUR reputation on the line for somebody else.

Answer 4

There are two types of relationships in your post...family and business along with personal feelings of image. Is it wise to allow image to destroy family relationships? She can't make you dishonest by quiting the job ...it's her choice be it good or bad right? So, if it's her choice then it's her loss or gain. If your boss thinks ill of you because she quits then you may just find your boss isn't so honest after all because it honestly has nothing to do with you. He gave her the job so it's between boss and employee.

Answer 5

Just tell her that even though this is your dream job, you understand it may not be hers. She is probably afraid that you will get mad at her, for wanting to quit. Let her know that you aren't mad, and that you hope the both of you will still have that close relationship even after she has found employment elsewhere.

Answer 6

basically attempt to maintain your distance. Is it their character features or are you basically incompatible? you assert "poisonous". That sounds quite undesirable. and that i don't comprehend what you propose via "close". yet, if that's a sibling and you're an person then basically save far flung from them. If that's a companion then... that's yet another question.

Answer 7

Just continue doing your job and say nothing. Learn from this never recommend someone again. You can not be responsible for someone Else's actions and I'm sure your boss knows this.

Answer 8

Its not your fault she doesn't like the job you thought she would be good at it and you tried your best there isn't much you can do. But i wouldn't let it get in the way of family though...

Answer 9

Tell her how you feel and let her know the least she could do would be to put in a 2-week notice when she find something else.