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been going out with my girl for 3 months now and she had been treated badly by her ex and ive tried everything to reassure her that im not going to do what he did and she said it was ok but now im falling in love with her and if i say to her that i love i dont want her to run a mile cos thats what he said and she believed him so basically im not sure what to do

2007-02-15 02:53:36 · 14 answers · asked by ally b 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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i was treated really bad my ex for 2 years but i loved him,i still find it hard to trust my current boyfriend now,it takes time to heal,i guess the only thing you can do is really jst treat her like shes the only one for you but make sur eyou dont get walked on,just be there and be her friend aswell as her boyf,if you love her thenbreak it to her gently and tell her why you've fallen in love with her,she probably has low self asteem so knowing that you think shes a wonderful girl will make her feel appriciated and in return she might start to trust you,you seem like a nice boy,treat her right and im sure it'l work out.

2007-02-15 02:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by ViXoNvEe 2 · 0 0

i know what she is going through, please take it easy with her, 3 months is not along time for her to build up trust in men, i should know, if you are falling in love with her then be patient, tell her that she is special, or that you are always going to be there, let her get over this monster, she is probably confused and most importantly she wont believe anything you say, i really wish the two of you well, and hope its a happy ending you sound like a fantastic guy x

2007-02-15 03:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by honey xx 2 · 0 0

well you will have to give her some time these things are not easy to get over as she may never completly over come it you will have to just tell her that you will never hurt her and you know she will need some time to trust you and you will wait as long as it takes and all she will want is love and hug her all the time that helps as thats your way of saying you will keep her safe and i admire you for being there for her not many ppl will put up with that but there are few that will so thats what i advise you to do and i know that will work hope this helps

2007-02-15 03:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by cristle 2 · 0 0

Just ask her, smooth but casual, if she would have a problem with falling in love again.

try it at some romantic moment when the mood is nice and she's a million miles away from those old bad memories.

2007-02-15 03:08:26 · answer #4 · answered by charlie 3 · 0 0

follow your heart. At the end of the day if you love her tell her. The love is not the issue here..its her self confidance and personal issues that need working on.

tell her you love her and that you will be there to help her through this difficult time. Eventually as she comes to love herself and regain trust and confidance, you will see a large improvement in your relationship and of course your partner

2007-02-15 03:07:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

seriously how can you love someone after 3 months your heart is ruling your head take a step back and enjoy your growing relationship cos when you say those words it puts lots of pressure on the relationship for both of you just have fun see what happens and you will know when to say those 3 magic words who knows she might say them to you first

2007-02-15 02:59:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

dont tell her that you love her show signs of affection and lovingness that could be assumed in either i love you way. let her get to trust you and be able to know that you mean what you say and dont be too wuick on the movements with her! thinkabout what not to do and keep well away from them!

good luck! xxxx

2007-02-15 03:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by devil at work 2 · 0 0

look if u love her tell her! she needs to know there is still hope for her and reassure her that ur not him and tell her calmly that u dont want to pay for his mistakes and that u would never make those mistakes! she needs to know u love her itll be the best help u can give her to heal! best wishes, follow your heart!

2007-02-15 02:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by rckstar88 2 · 0 0

this is gonna take time
you have to show her you can be trusted
the more time that goes by , the more she will trust you!
dont tell her you love her just yet!

2007-02-15 03:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by Jemmax 6 · 0 0

Show her. Take time,be patient-in time she'll see you mean it. And when it's the right time to tell her you'll know it.

2007-02-15 02:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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