my man is not romantic n has no passion when it comes to the bedroom.i am passionate and sensual i make sure i look sexy and make a effort.he just rams his tounge down my throat then proceeds to lift me on to him with out no foreplay,sometimes he even keeps his top on,its starting to put me off.i do seduce him and give him pleasure but wheres mine?he's too fast and rough.he even shuns me sometimes,i told him what i felt but he seems to think its all in my head,i do care for him but i want him to take his time with me,to be slow and sensual,what should i do.
2007-02-15 02:44:26 · 19 answers · asked by ViXoNvEe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're not married but have been together 5 mnths its a long distance rel i see him every 2-3 weeks
2007-02-15 02:52:02 · update #1
ration until he understands. guys have a way of saying, ok ok ok like they comprehend when they don't. for example: i met this guy he rubbed my arm...i had to tell him three times to leave me alone but he didn't understanding until i put bass in my voice...now every guy is different but one thing remains the same from guy to guy...they need thorough directions and you have to give them sensitive b/c if your mean they'll get all sensitive and junk. show him what you mean or cut back on the sloppy sex...make him understand what you want and what you need if he isn't willing to oblige kick him to the curb. sorry!
2007-02-15 02:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Benny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish -- and honestly don't deserve you.
Good luck, there is no book on what to do whith a slefish partner in the bedroom but there certainly is a bunch of marriages wrapped around the axels about it.
At least as a women you can catch when he's in the bed and sit on his face. Maybe he'll get the idea. As a guy I'd be up for rape charges if I did that.
2007-02-15 10:50:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are to blame at all and I also don't agree with some of the answers you have been given, saying YOU should try harder. Try to think like him for a second. It's a long distance relationship and he has sex with you in a very detached and uncaring way. What does that say? He likes you to please him but has no interest in returning the favor, which shows he does not care about you and does not care what you think of him. It does not sound like he is in this relationship for the long term. You are better than that! Giving your body and love to someone is a gift. He has not done anything to show he deserves that gift. Dump him.
2007-02-15 11:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way you can change him, i am in the same situation and have been with him for 6 years, we are both of the older generation, even when you tell him its romance you need more the sex he doesn't care, so all i can say is you have to put up with it or tell him its over,I know you will be thinking you might be able to change him but you cant, its only a few months youve been together so speak to him
2007-02-16 08:50:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope u find out I will be checking back because like you I have the same problem and I'm getting ready to leave because of it. In the begining when he said he wasn't really romantic I didn't know that was what he meant! Good Luck
2007-02-15 10:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he starts moving too fast, push him back a bit and MAKE him slow down and take his time. show him the difference between what he's doing and what you want, so he can see what he's doing wrong and know it's not just in your head.
2007-02-15 10:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a guy like that and got rid of him. Men like that make you feel insecure and then you start to question whether you are too loving etc. Its obvious he isnt interested and you should find someone who will make you feel special like the person you are.
2007-02-15 13:48:51 · answer #7 · answered by Blackduchess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... this is a tricky situation... what i would do is email him (in a letter) or write one to him explaining how you feel. Sometimes guys just don't get it if you tell them face to face.
If he doesn't respond to your letter tell him you're really upset about this and if he doesn't change, you're leaving... I know this is not the easiest for you to say, but it'll get him to listen... trust me!
If he has a "I don't care" attitude then he is not the one for you. You deserve to be appreciated...
2007-02-15 10:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Me! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem at times, you should be spontaneous. Do something sexy out of the blue, whatever your imagination leads you to. You could dress up too!
2007-02-15 10:49:40 · answer #9 · answered by NATASHA V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was he like before you were married? If you say you waited, you're getting what you deserve. That's why people should sleep together before they get married, for just this reason.
Was he different before? Is this a new thing? If so, talk to him.
2007-02-15 10:49:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋