so ive been seeing a guy for a while now, we slept together a couple of times but he has no problems except he just wont come during sex, ive tried everything, even let him do what he wants but no success,spoke to him and he says its stress and lack of sleep, and he had it with his ex girlfriends too, but sometimes he manages it but most the time doesnt.
has anyone else come accross this as i have to admit its a first for me, and im starting to feel self conscious that im doing something wrong although he assures me im doing everything right!
2007-02-15 02:40:39 · 17 answers · asked by sweetness 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cindybear - he has epilepsy so is on medication to control it maybe a reason????
2007-02-15 02:56:25 · update #1
Here's a funny story for you that really helped my gf with just this type of issue.
For the history of time, the female orgasm has almost been a myth. For centuries, many women have never experienced one. How many times have you heard this? Does it mean that they don't enjoy sex? No...
So, now we have this situation in where the man doesn't experience orgasm. Does it mean that they are not experiencing fun? NO Why is it that if the woman doesn't have an orgasm during sex, its "just the way it is" but if a man doesn't, then there has to be a problem?
My gf and I were in San Diego last year, and had been having a fair amount of sex. Well, she awoke on the third day and had a seemingly unsatiable appetite, so we embarked on one of our marathons. During it, I was unable to have an orgasm, so we had this conversation just as we are now, and I explained that for a change in life, why doesn't she just let me have my way with her, and let her have some fun. We didn't even need to have sex for it to be a satisfying experience for the both of us.
We stopped counting on her 17th orgasm of the day. I had the most fun I could have, and probably one of the most impressive days I've ever had.
Stop obsessing over it. Have fun. If he can't orgasm, or if he can't even get it up...just stop worrying and taking all the fun out of it. Its not a life sentence, heck it may not even be bad. If you worry about it, get him checked out, obsess a little more...he'll start believing it too, and you'll never have any fun anymore.
Relax...really really.
2007-02-15 03:23:24 · answer #1 · answered by Tyerant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I came across this with my ex. Both sides. He couldn't make me and I couldn't him. Don't know if this will solve it, but I wasn't being honest about what I liked in bed, so he couldn't please me. Once I told him and he did it, then we were on a better path. But majority of the time he wouldn't. He would get mad and just quit on me...yeah...what a sex life, starting sucking after a few times of that. Anyhow, foreplay always helped to get the blood flowing. When he did, I found that was the key to 'success'.
2007-02-15 02:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok i have heard from it somewhere and i will try to explain it clear why it does that way. Ok your guy, try ask him when last time it come out? if he said a while ago and go ahead and ask him how and what did he do that day?
Also, it depend on condom, some guys can't let it come out without condom becuase its a habit. If guy use condom often and it get used with it and let it come out all the time, so then without condom, it will get confuse and refuse let it come out.
So i think why not you tell him to not touch you for a while, maybe 2 weeks so he has to focus his thing to stress and really want to come out, then you guys GO FOR IT, bingo, it will come out.
I hope its clear for you to understand and good luck.
2007-02-15 02:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never had this problem with other guys, then it's not you. If he seems to enjoy the experience without expecting the grand finale, then maybe it shouldn't become a hang-up for you to expect it for him either. Just take it for what it is... feeling good together.
2007-02-15 02:48:49 · answer #4 · answered by selena n 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly if he has had the same problem with previous gf's then I wouldnt worry about it, there is nothing you can do.
I think you he may want to go see his doctor though just for a check up.
2007-02-15 02:53:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he is not worried about it then let it be. But perhaps some medical advice would be in order, I've never heard of this type of thing happening, but is he on any type of medication, that may be one thing? Good Luck in your search.
2007-02-15 02:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cindybear 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he says you are doing everything right then just listen to him and relax, maybe you could give him massages before, just so he is relaxed
if you are both more relaxed it will probably just happen in time
xxx
2007-02-15 02:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i have never came across that problem what he says is just an excuse you will have to realy talk this through theres something wrong but what you work it out
2007-02-15 02:47:07 · answer #8 · answered by cristle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Under Pressure *dum dum dum dum dumdum* Under Pressure
2007-02-15 02:45:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to see a doctor, but you can't make him. Look up info on the internet about it, do some research.
2007-02-15 02:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋