My boyfriend Alex and I have been dating for the past year and a half. I have been living with my sister so that I can save money cause I am still a college student. Recently Alex asked me to move in with him when his current roommate moves out. I feel it is just a little bit too soon for us to live together. What do you think? His roommate is moving out soon and he wants an answer.
2007-02-15 02:37:00 · 15 answers · asked by Caribbean Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your not ready for that, than your just not. First of all your a student and education comes first- do you think that you could maintain your grades if you lived with him? Second of all- your trying to save up money- not spend money. Living on your own or with a roomate is a big responsibility. You'll be dishing our more than you save. Trust me! You've only been with him for a year and a half. If you feel like your ready than that's on you. My suggestion is to wait, till you have enough money and are able to stand on your own two feet--not his. That means if you guys get in an argument, who knows if he going to foot the bills or not, and your name is not on the lease, he can put you out whenever he wants to--not saying that he would. Take your time--don't let him convince you into something that you know that your not ready for. Take Care!
2007-02-15 02:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on why he wants you to move in- it sounds like he needs some help with the rent, given the fact that he's asking bc his current roommate is moving out. If it's more important for you to save money, stay where you are. If you think this is the next step, move in!
A year and a half is plenty of time to know if it's right or not.
If you have any reservations though, stay where you are- things get messy once you've intertwined belongings.
2007-02-15 10:42:27 · answer #2 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like Alex wants someone to pick up where the roomie left off. Meaning, sounds to me that he will expect some rent out of you and that he needs help making the bills each month.
Stay put. You have a good arrangement and if you are feeling it is too soon, and you are in no position to pay half the bills for the apartment, it's good to stay where you are.
Just tell him you wouldn't feel right living there for free and you can't afford any rent so you'll have to stay at your sisters. But tell him you will help him find a new roomie! Post some ads, look on Craigslist, etc. Help him out.
2007-02-15 10:42:58 · answer #3 · answered by ssssss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't comfortable with this after a year and a half of dating, then definitely, don't do it. Are you sure he isn't asking you so he won't have to hunt for another roommate to share his costs? You know, easy solution? Sounds like it to me. Especially since he seems to be pressuring you.
Never ever do anything you're not ready for. Especially like this. The most important thing in your life right now is your education. Don't do anything that would interfere with finishing that.
2007-02-15 10:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by thankamy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel it's right yet, don't do it. Moving in is a huge step and requires a lot of thought and consideration. It can be a disaster if it's not the right time, so don't rush into it just because he esentially needs a new roommate.
2007-02-15 10:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by BG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats totally up to you. if you feel that it is too soon then trust you feelings. He should understand. Try spending some time living there while the roomate still lives there soo how you like it. You never know it might be fine and you could be just paranoide
2007-02-15 10:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by rain9439 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only move in if it feels right to you. Remember -- you don't have to share a room with him.
One tip of advise if you do move in together -- keep your finances separate. Split the bills or have him pay the bills and you buy groceries.
2007-02-15 10:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then don't be forced into it as you are likely to regret it. Just explain to him that this time it's not right and that you will move him with him some day but not quite yet.
2007-02-15 10:41:10 · answer #8 · answered by ChocLover 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are the two of you? I don't think it is too soon BUT there is a lot to consider first.
2007-02-15 10:41:40 · answer #9 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready, then say no. You don't want to rush into things. You'll know when your ready to move in together.
2007-02-15 10:42:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋