Boyfriend Troubles?

Question

Ok i just need advice on what to do, because I am lost.

I love my boyfriend, and if I were to leave him it would be really hard because i would miss him so much! But sometimes putting up with his crap is hard.

If I get online on AIM, he yells at me and threatens to kill himself because he thinks I show my friend chris of 6 years more attention then I show him. I only talk to chris online tho! If I am an hour late home from work, he accuses me of taking someone home, or if i dont answer his text messages, he freaks out.
We usually hang out everyday, and sometimes i would like personal space. But when i tell him I dont want to hang out, he starts yelling at me because I say I dont want to. Weve gotten into physical fights before. I cant have my friends anymore without him saying that I treat them better then him. Yesterday for V-day, he started yelling because i couldnt get my car out and he wanted to go out n eat. I offered to make him dinner, but he just got an attitude, help!

Oh yes, and his family of 10 hates me

of course he loves me! He just wants to smother me with it. And hes never been in a serious relationship before so thats prolly why he doesnt know how to handle it.

Answer 1

What do you think will happen when you get married? This situation will get worse. His family doesn't like you and this adds to your frustration. If you've already gotten into physical fights already what will happen to you if you continue in the relationship? You are already giving up your friends. You need your friends, what is he hiding that he doesn't want your friends to know about?, the physical abuse and mental abuse!
Would you hurt yourself? If not, why are you letting someone else hurt you? As far as your car, well where was his car? Is he using you? He sounds to me as a Con artist. Things will only get worse. You can always get another boyfriend. One who will be compatible for you.

Answer 2

hello friend..this is [e-mail]. I feel that ur bf is being too rude and is not fit for a person like you who gave and is still willing to give up more for the sake of winning him over. If a person does not respect your feelings in any manner what so ever, he is not acrually in love with you but trying to use your company with him only in those times when he is alone and does not have a friend to hang out with, if this wasnt true, then why does he not like your talking to your friends. This is stupid saying that you pay more attention and stuff to your friends or your relatives. This shows he is too im-matured and too self centered who has no feelings for others. Incase you want to lighten your heart or need more clarifications, you can email me or add me to your yahoo messenger on the above address.

Answer 3

He is a very controlling and abusive person. He has started with the verbal and emotional abuse. He tries to control your every action with his words and actions. If you remain with him, he will graduate to beating you. Especially since you two have fought in the past. He will not change his ways. Get out of the relationship now and cut all contact too him before you get seriously hurt. If necessary get the authorities involved, but leave now. You deserve better than an abusive relationship.

Answer 4

HONEY look there are plenty of guys out there if u drop him and it doesnt work out then u know that he will take u back if he acts that poessesive over u. no man is going to run my life though next time he doese that turn it right back arround on him, act like you are sad next time he yells at u and say im soo sorry for hurting you over and over agin i just want to kill myself i cant keep hurting you like this you know stupid shoo shoo like that

Answer 5

Why on Earth would you want to be in a relationship like this. He pretty much accuses you of cheating, your boyfriend has anger management issues and he is totally insecure. Top it off his family does not like you.

Find youself a guy who does not have anger issues and is secure with himself.

Answer 6

It sounds like he is abusive and coming from abusive relationships and watching abusive relationships untangle it`s what it sounds like because he is controlling everything you do. For one your not married to this guy and he shouldn`t be like that. It`s unhealthy and certainly not normal! You can do better a lot better believe me! Get out before he rears his ugly head of abuse. He`s way to controlling but if that what you want I can`t tell you what to do. Iam just making suggestions. I know you said you love him but does he LOVE you?

Answer 7

LEAVE HIM. this guy whom ya call your boyfriend doesn't truly like ya otherwise he wouldn't like cause you mental an physical stress
if ya truly love him try consultin' a doctor. if even that doesn't work leave him. remember your just blockin' him from some one else's love. you'll miss him and the good moments together but remember you'll find your soulmate some day.............

Answer 8

sounds very adolescent to me, dump him, yeah you might miss some of the tender moments, but there is a ton of people out there in the world, who will treat you better

Answer 9

Wow, if he ever laid a hand on you, i dont think you should be with him, no matter whay hes still going to do it, i think you should leave him before you get hurt, Good luck.

Answer 10

he's kinda' so addicted to you huh? in my opinion his attitude is really bad..i can tell you're having headaches really. but what you can do? you want to let go of him? sure. find someone who got no attitude issues.