I'm falling for this guy and I don't know what to do. We haven't met in person yet but our conversations are awsome. But it seems too good to be true. We've already talked about a future together but everytime he plans to come and see me some goes wrong. There is always an excuse and explantion. I don't know if I trust him or believe anything he says anymore. But I also don't want to make the mistake that if he is telling me the truth, I would have lost him for not trusting him. Please help!
2007-02-15 01:44:14 · 13 answers · asked by flctya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe there is something he did not tell you, and he is scared that if you meet him in person you will not like him anymore. Talk to him, and if you really love him, tell him that no matter what it is, it will not change your feelings. I met my boyfriend online, and we are currently living together now for almost a year and we are planning to get married, he never lied to me online, but there were things that he didn't told me right away because maybe he was scared that I will not like him anymore if I find out.
2007-02-15 01:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by dm-dnd 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If it seems too good to be true, it probably is. If he always has excuses for not seeing you, then I suspect he's married or already in a relationship, which makes him a "player." If you can no longer trust him or believe what he says, then do yourself a big favor, & break this off now. I smell a rat, so break all ties with him & do it NOW. You'll save yourself a lot of heartache in the long run. There are many men out there who prey on vulnerable women & they become quite good at saying what you want to hear. If this guy really wanted to meet you, it would have happened by now & no excuses. Go with the gut feelings you're having now. Don't let him sweet talk you into staying in touch, these men are good at that too. Be strong & do the right thing.
2007-02-15 02:02:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I'm concerned about your apparent lack of experience. He must be having a blast keeping you in suspence as to whether or not he'll actually follow through on plans. If you haven't met this guy after talking on line for 4 months, you aren't likely to do so. Chances are good that he's already in a relationship and is toying with you b/c he's bored. Guys also like to ensure there is someone 'waiting in the wings' at all times in the event they get rejected by their current love interest...someone like you that is overly understanding, who makes excuses for him, someone insecure enough to wonder if they're making a 'mistake' just in case he is 'telling the truth', etc. You seem so desperate and insecure. You're worried about 'losing' someone that you haven't even met. He could be telling you anything and you'd believe it. Keep in mind that the only information you have about this guy is what he has chosen to disclose. He could be anybody...and you're planning a future together. yeah, right?! You've put yourself in jeopardy and don't have a clue.
2007-02-15 02:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, if he keeps putting off meeting you, then he is probably married or has a girl friend. I ran into a woman like this once. I only asked to meet her once and she made an excuse, but i later found out( long story) that she was playing some other guy for a complete fool. People on the net can pretend to be whomever they want. It's one of thedrawbacks of the cyber world. I'm guessing this guy is lying.
2007-02-15 01:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a successful product of online relationships, met him on tahoo and married him in November last year. The only way that it works is total honesty and trust. He gave me all the info I needed on him to convince me he is real. Pics, friends addresses, his password, copy of his drivers license LOL yeah thats how determined I was to make it work. If the guy you chatting with makes constant excuses like you said then he has doubts and hasnt been telling the truth. ask for his phone number then trace the address to the number etc... just find a way to prove to yourself that its worth it. if not then just move on.
2007-02-15 01:53:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll assume you live in the same country/state/province, so:
If you don't trust him or believe him, it is too good to be true. You haven't even MET this person and how many times has he let you down.
Move on - try an online dating service and choose someone closer to home.
2007-02-15 01:49:42 · answer #6 · answered by Slimslimmer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-03 12:38:19 · answer #7 · answered by lobos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here is what you should do . buy a web-cam if u don't have one now and insist that he buy one as well . if he says he cant afford one then if your still wondering what to do say give me your mailing address and mail him a cheap web cam. once that is done make him come on the cam and speak with you live. if he wont do that then its a sure thing he is lying about something his age his weight his life . i would not want to meet someone i had not seen on web-cam because with out seeing the person live you cant know for sure what the person looks like or even if the person is of the gender that they say they are. a person can type any thing on here and pretend to be any age or gender they might want to .
2007-02-15 01:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation except I was interisted in a girl of course. I met her online and it took more than a year for us to meet, she was really great. We would make arrangements to meet but something would always come up. Eventually it happened. We became really close and everything... then all of a sudden she leaves me on Valentines Day for no f!@king reason, but oh well.
If you want to meet him then do it, things could go really well for you but don't expect everything to go great.
2007-02-15 02:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by lmao 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is married or has a gf
be careful i would stop the computer chat and find someone around where you live who you can see and know more about
2007-02-15 01:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋