Do you think children should get kicked out when they're 18?

Question

I see that on the TV a lot. Basically, when an adult child of 18 or so complains, talk show hosts says, "Well why don't you go out and get a job and find some place to live?" And then everyone looks at the 18 year old like he is a jerk. I'm happy my parents were more supportive. I feel bad for kids like that.

Answer 1

I'm happy my parents are paying for my college tuition, keeping me in the house and giving me everything (and more) I need to be comfortable. Yeah, I feel bad for those kids too, even those whose parents make them pay 'rent' for living in the house. I'm happy my parents are so supportive so I give it back by doing really well in school and giving them the respect they deserve as my parents.

Answer 2

That all depends. Is the 18 year old still in school? Does the 18 year old have a job, help around the house? Or does the 18 year old sit around all day hang out with friends and bum money off their parents?

When my children are 18 if they are still in school (high school or collage) then they can stay at home. But they will have to realize that even if their 18 it's still my house and my rules. If that start disrespecting me and my rules then they'll be out!

My parents allowed my sister to bum money from them and live at home not paying any bills until she was 19. Now she's 21 married and thousands of dollars in debt! She quit her job while her husband only makes 800 dollars a month and couldn't pay her bills. Well she figured that my parents would just bail her out and of course they did. But what does that teach her? Nothing. I won't do that to my children they will be productive members of world. Some time's you just have to tell your kids I love you and I'm sorry but your on your own now.

Answer 3

I agree with you. I don't know where I would be right now if I were "kicked out" at the age of 18. Where would an 18 year old go? In this day and age you need a college education to make any sort of money to support yourself. If an 18 year old gets kicked out then they will end up living off the system because the parents are too lazy to be supportive.

I do agree that if an 18 year old chooses not to go to college then they need to have a job to stay at the parents house. Not necessarily to pay bills but for their own spending and savings.

Answer 4

Nobody should be kicked out of the house just for being a certain age. While parent's shouldn't kick their children out, their children at least should attempt to be somewhat responsible at that time. I can see how a parent would gladly support their child through college while they are trying to get their degree, or in any other kind of program.

The show that you are talking about, probably featured kids who live with their parents and who are lazy and doing nothing to help the family. If you work full time, and all you want to do is party and waste your money and live off of your parents, that's pretty bad. If you live with your parents and are at least being a responsible adult, I'm sure parents wouldn't mind letting kids stay at home if they either needed to or wanted to.

Answer 5

NO! That is crazy! some people arent even prepared to live on their own at 30! Im not kidding either.... I live in a college town and these kids out here in school are CRZY they are not ready to live alone or manage bills... Constantly they are askin mom n dad or government or non profit agencies for help paying the bills that they drank away at a bar! Then they graduate and dont know what to do cuz they have learned nothing about independance!

As far as talk shows- who actually believes anything on TV anymore ! ITs all just marketing and Trash!

I understand some people are frustrated because there is such a lack of respect for elders these days.
It all started when parents thought it better to let their kids be totally expressive and at the cost of others feelings disrespectfulness soon followed.
I have three kids and its hard to fight the public.. SO many parents I know think its cute to have their kids talk "smack" to their friends.. I have a neice that calls everybody *****... she is 2yrs old.. .her parents think its cute...

Our society is suffering and now we want to blame the 18 yr old for what the parents pretty much caused.. I feel bad for them too!

Answer 6

I think when a child turns 18, if they're not ready to move out, they should be obligated to get a job and help pay bills and/or buy groceries for their parents. Kids need some sort of responsibility at that age in order to transition into the real world. If the kid doesn't want to work or help out and is not trying to grow up, then, yes it's time for a reality check-- get a job or you're out!

Answer 7

My son is 16 and I would never ever just give him the boot on his 18th birthday. It means he is an adult and can make some decisions on his own now- cant drink still! BUT nope- you do not stop loving or being a parents at 18 years old. I will always be here for him as a soft and safe place to fall even if he is 30! Parenthood and love never ends

Answer 8

I'm 23 (just graduated from college in May) and I still live at home with my parents. Why? Because we support each other emotinally and financially and we're all happy together! I think that parents should teach their children responsibility from an early age and force them to realize that once they have a job or are old enough to hold one, they should try to help the family out. Without my parents asking, I started giving them money as soon as I was employed (we're far from rich), as well as helping out around the house with chores, etc. It's all about how your raise your children to care about and respect you. Some parents just spoil their children without teaching them to care about others (especially the hands that are feeding them), and then when the children grow up selfish and lazy, they don't know what to do and decide to just toss their children aside at 18. Honestly, if you didn't teach your children these things about adulthood early on, how can you expect them to just KNOW once they turn 18???

Answer 9

Ok Iam a mom and my son is now 21 and I have tried everything to help him and the more I help him the less he tries. He doesn't want to be told what to do , he has ran up my phone and cable bill without any regard for the fact that I work everday to pay for those thing's (I told him that is just like stealing from me because I have to pay for it, and I have a budget noone gives or has given me anything so why does he exspect me to). So as of the last day of this month he is out he was given 90 days to figure it out plus the last 3 years. Iam having a hard time doing this but I think if I don't he will never go without abig push I told him if your hungry i will always feed you but you have got to grow up it isn't an option . I love him more than life and this is not an easy decision for a Parent.

Answer 10

Kicked out? No but they should not act as if they are simply borders.

They should be acting responsibly. If they are still in school they should be getting good marks. If they have finished school they should have a real job and be contributing to the household budget even if only a minor amount. In all cases they should still be polite and respectful of their parents and other family members, they should still help out around the home (chores).

If they don't do these things the parents should step up and give the ultimatum "shape up or ship out"!

Answer 11

I think if they are 18, and not in school. They should have a job and be paying their parents a modest rent to help with groceries and water/electricity ect.

If 18 and in school, if they are helping to pay for their school, and the parents are OK with it they should be allowed to stay rent free...but once graduated from school, 6 months living at home rent free while working or finding a job then the modest rent shoudl kick in.

This is what my parents did and I think it was fine. Helps the child learn responsibility and money management.