so what to do if you've made a mistake?

Question

what if you realise after you've been dumped/ broken up by your partner that it was your fault.

think its happened to me.

I wasnt really showing my feelins towards my ex for some reason. dunno whether we got under eeachother's skins or what.

but I used to go out with my mates or jsut stay in and chill out without her- and enjoy it. I was thinking for a while whether I was happy and if things were working.

Then she ended it ( found out from her mates because I showed my feelins to late )

Ive said I would change but I dont think she believes me. she says she is happy how she is. I dont blaime her because I wasnt very loving in the last few weeks.

Though believe it or not all my true feelins have come back. I cant stop thinking of her yet I know i could try move on ( it wont be easy )

But I believe so strongly that things would work-but its trying to get that across to her. im given her space. hopefully see will make first contact and say she has been missing me

well found out thats he is totally fine without me and is going out all the time with her work mates. so it proves to me she doesnt give a sh*t. sorta since Ive heard that its like a click of the fingers and she is out my head. if she cant see im worth holding onto- then screw her

Answer 1

shes not interested,you have to move on with your life

Answer 2

This would be my strategy in your situation........I'd become her best friend. You know her better than probably just about anybody so it shouldn't be too hard to figure out how to get back in her life. Offer to help her with something....a home project, fixing her vehicle (or transporting her to the repair shop), a consumer complaint, whatever. You need to get her to start relying on you again....as a good friend. It's too scary of a leap to profess your love and try to re-establish the romance. You need to develop a 'comfort zone' so that both of your defenses will be lower. Get her comfortable being around you again. After you start spending more of your free time with her (including weekends) she'll figure out that you're not chasing other women. You can act as if that's no big deal as you're not in any hurry to date others. Also, this way you'll have a chance to determine how you feel about her and whether you even want to be her boyfriend again. You need to establish the trust and friendship necessary for a good relationship. You can demonstrate in the course of being a friend that you are more open and emotionally available and she can see for herself that you've changed. Nothing like showing someone instead of telling them. And when you do start spending time together throw in some sincere compliments at the appropriate times so she'll feel better about herself. Get the picture?! Good Luck

Answer 3

Im afraid there is nothing you can do but give her the space she needs. She was probably giving you little hints about how she was feeling before she made the decision to end things with you. It wouldnt have been an easy decision and its probably hurt her more than it has you. Maybe you can write her a letter and say how you feel? Give her some time to think about it, but let her know that no matter what her decision is, you will always be there for her. Who knows...

Answer 4

You have done all the right things all you can do right now is just wait and see. You have realised you have done wrong but I am sure their was right and wrong on both sides. All you can do is state your case and leave it at that. Perhaps she will come back perhaps not. If she doesnt then it isnt your fault, and she probably just fell out of love. People dont lleave other people they love, they give them chances, if she isnt willing to even give you a chance then the realtionship is what has fgone wrong and not what you have done!

Answer 5

best bet is to just leave her alone for the most part. Actions speak louder than words. If it's ment to be you will be together, especially if she let you go because she wanted to see if you would care that she is gone now. send her flowers maybe leave her alone for a week after or two and then do something really romantic. something totally out of character for you and see how she reacts. but let her make the choice just wait... Good luck!~~

Answer 6

you've got to learn and move on. that was one hell of a woman with a great deal of self-respect. don't continue to be weak by holding on to her. just vow to make a change for yourself in future. if you think your mates are more valuable than a partner in life then go with that but remember who will really be there for you when you really need it

Answer 7

i have made such extremely some blunders in my existence! My greatest one would in all likelihood be wishing each and every nighttime that my dad would purely pass to detention center. i have continually wide-spread in view that i become 8 years old that he would ultimately pass to detention center, information articles were round about that lengthy describing his fraudulent thoughts and the oh-so-smart [on the time] Ponzi Scheme. My father become actual between the first to get away with stealing a large sum of money [$400m]. nicely purely 5 weeks shy of my fourteenth birthday, my dad informed me he become finally going to detention center. the subsequent day I left for Florida with my acquaintances and as i become settling into my inn room, I were given a textual content from my brother telling me my father had purely left to pass to detention center. it is been a month now and that i omit my dad dearly. speaking two times a month for 10 minutes each and every time is not in any respect like seeing him in individual. My homestead is actual a mess with out my father. I not in any respect fairly realized how a lot I loved him until eventually he become lengthy previous. he will be in detention center for yet another 5 years and that i won't be able to work out him until eventually he's out [he says prisons aren't any position for children to visit]. besides, that is fairly in trouble-free words one "mistake" I regret... no longer loving my father sufficient and being so selfish as to choose him lengthy previous. i do not regret some thing fairly, I advise i'd not replace no longer loving him because I wasn't on the point of him [i become raised through nannies] and he not in any respect, ever hugged me until eventually i become about to leave for Florida and he would not see me for 5 more beneficial years. actual, blunders make us who we are in the present day and that i love myself a lot. I study from each and every thing I do.. the solid and the undesirable. for sure a superstar for you. i do not recognize everybody who hasn't made a mistake previously :] -Catherine

Answer 8

i think u can just b nice to her n show ur concern towards her.
u can gift her some flowers too. if she really cares for u then she will surely come n patch up with u.n dont behave somehow that she would feeel embarrassing OK!!
just go n mana lo yaar...........

Answer 9

Its true what they say, u dont know what uve got till its gone. N u learn from your mistakes, treat her better if yous get back together.

Answer 10

Tell her how you feel and how much of a douche you were, then give her space so she can think about it and decide what she wants to do.

oooh and bring her flowers. and not roses, something exotic, non-cliche. (like sunflowers)