Is there such a thing as visiting to much at the grave site of a loved one?

Question

If so how much is to much

Answer 1

There will come a time when you realize you have gone an entire day without thinking of your departed loved one. That's when you will know that the healing has begun, and there will no longer be such a need inside you to visit this person's grave. Up until that point, visit as often as you wish. Mourning at a loved one's grave is an essential part of the grieving process for many people. It helps you to feel closer to that person, and ultimately you end up feeling better, coming to terms with your loved one's passing. These things are different for everyone, there's no rule books, no limits. Visit as often as you need to. And please accept my condolences, I understand what you are going through.

Answer 2

To grieve is okay, but it should not take over your life (other than for a short period of time). If it has been months since the passing of a loved one, and you find that you must visit the grave daily or very often and if you don't you feel bad or guilty, then you really need to deal with this. You may need to get outside help. Talk to a counseling pastor or Christian friends.

If they just passed recently, I would say visiting once or twice a day (if you are close by) may be okay, depending. It's really hard to say without knowing exactly what the person is feeling at the time or how they act before and after the visit.

My brother-in-law passed away a little over a year ago. Because of the circumstances involved, I have not visited his grave yet. But I did grieve and cry everyday for months. I still miss him, but cannot seem to want to visit his grave.

Answer 3

Graves and cemetery`s should be treated with great respect as they contain the bodies of those whom in life were temples of the Holy Spirit, so to visit a loved ones grave out of respect is good.
However we are told not to grieve like those who have no faith,so we need to be careful that we do not become so heart broken that we also become spiritually morbid, outside of this there is no set number of times to visit our loved ones grave.

Answer 4

a million. call his mom. tell her how sorry you're about her loss, nonetheless. the way you omit him and ask her if she is going to his grave. tell her you won't be able to pass, yet tell her you'd be questioning about him all day. 2. i imagine the most you ought to do is end and think about how chuffed he made you and how solid someone he become. when you're religious and/or pray, then perchance pray for him. 3. your spouse and children would not comprehend and do not look like very effective human beings. tell them you loved him, and purely because he wasn't your husband does no longer advise he wasn't major. tell them apart from, it would not matter what they see a opt for for, you aren't from now on vacationing his grave for his or her wellbeing. And finally, save your head intense and keep in mind that he's observing you and loves you.

Answer 5

As much as you like is sufficient. Too much, is when you need to question yourself or ask others. Those visits should be a celebration of good times, not a perpetuation of pain. When I'm gone , I want anyone who new me to smile, laugh and cry tears of comedic joy, when reminiscing.

Answer 6

there is no rule about it or anything, as far as i know.. so knock yourself out and visit every day..

but i do think that learning to accept the loss and getting on with your life is pretty important.. dwelling on it too much and obsessively visiting someones grave cant be good for one's health.

Answer 7

If you find yourself at a point where your visits are interfering with your ability to function within society, disrupting relationships with the living, causing you to set aside responsibilities, then you are visiting too much.

Answer 8

There is a time for all things under the sun. Go as long as you need to. But you know they can't hear you. But if you will ask the Lord Jesus to speak to them for you he can allow it. His grace overcomes space and time.

Answer 9

Well I do think that there is a way to measure it. I guess if one goes there every day or every other day then there is a problem. Eventually one should let go, let dead people alone, and go on with their own life.

Answer 10

If you've worn a path in the grass to the resting place, it leaves evidence to others "someone was really loved".