Feeling too stressed - what should I do?

Question

Most days I am fine and I get with things, but now and again I tend to get really stressed. A pal of mine suggested I was having some sort of 'panic attacks'.

I don't want to go to the doctor, fearful that they will precribe medication or something I want to fight it on my own - without help if I can. It only happens very rarely, but in situations that I feel are out of my control or I cannot cope.

I really want to beat this, cause it will ruin my future if I don't get a grip on it now. It really upset me last night, when things came to a head.

I don't know if it is to do with a lack of confidence, when I get nervous they hit my stomach and I feel sick, last night my body all over was really tense. A pal of mine told me that I should relax more - this was when we were at a dinner and dance - was it due to a lack of social confidence? I have inherited a invrovert personality. I also wonder if it is connected with my wheat allergy too.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Be Yourself


do not make a show of holiness

do not pass out grades for good performance

these things create a climate of success and failure

competition and jealousy will follow


Be Yourself


do not emphasize material success

those who have a lot become greedy,

and those who have little become thieves


Be Yourself


when you reinforce your appearance, people will scramble to please


Be Yourself


pay respectful attention to all behaviour

be open to more and more possibilities of behaviour

you will learn a great deal when you are open to everything and not just figuring out what pleases the teacher, your boss, your mate..........


Be Yourself


style is no substitute for substance,

knowing certain facts is not more powerful than wisdom

creating an impression is not more potent than acting from your center


Be Yourself


effective action arises out of silence and a clear sense of being

in this you will find a source of peace



discover that the person you are is down to earth and can do what needs doing more effectively than the person who is merely busy

Answer 2

I really sympathise with you there, I suffer from exactly the same thing and have done for over a year now. Have not yet found a
real cure, but there are some things you can do to help yourself:

*Cut down on caffeine containing foods (coffee, coke/pepsi, chocolate) and any other stimulants.
*Get a good nights sleep; 7-8 hours is good.
*Try to find the cause of your stress and anxiety, and eliminate it (if it's your job, find another one, for instance)
*Find a counsellor that will do a course of cognitive behavior therapy and stress management - this can help if you have someone to talk you through the problem (never tried it myself, but I'm told it works)
*To help with your stomach upsets, take some antacid when you feel it coming on (it's normally your body producing excess acid that causes the sick feeling).

Bear in mind that there are some personality types that are more likely to suffer from anxiety and the chances are that you are one of those.

Most important of all, don't let it get you down. Good Luck!

Answer 3

When stress occurs, it is important to recognize and deal with it. Here are some suggestions for ways to handle stress. As you begin to understand more about how stress affects you as an individual, you will come up with your own ideas on how to ease the tension.
Try physical activity. When you are nervous, angry or upset, release the pressure through exercise or physical activity. Running, walking, playing tennis or working in your garden, are just some of the activities you might try. Physical exercise will relieve that "up tight" feeling, relax you, and turn the frowns into smiles. Remember, your body and your mind work together.


Share your stress. It helps to talk to someone about your concerns and worries. Perhaps a friend, family member, teacher or counselor, can help you see your problem in a different light. If you feel your problem is serious, you might seek professional help from a psychologist, psychiatrist or social worker. Knowing when to ask for help may help to avoid more serious problems later.


Know your limits. If a problem is beyond your control and cannot be changed at the moment, don't fight the situation. Learn to accept what is for now, until such time when you can change it.


Take care of yourself. You are special. Get enough rest and eat well. If you are irritable and tense from lack of sleep, or if you are not eating correctly, you will have less ability to deal with stressful situations. If stress repeatedly keeps you from sleeping, you should ask your doctor for help.


Make time for fun. Schedule time for both work and recreation. Play can be just as important to your well-being as work; you need a break from your daily routine to just relax and have fun.


Be a participant. One way to keep from getting bored, sad, and lonely is to go where it's all happening. Sitting alone can make you feel frustrated. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, get involved. Offer your services to a neighborhood or volunteer organizations. Help yourself by helping other people. Get involved in the world and the people around you, and you will find they will be attracted to you. You're on your way to making new friends and enjoying new activities.


Check off your tasks. Trying to take care of everything at once can seem overwhelming, and as a result, you may not accomplish anything. Instead, make a list of what tasks you have to do and do them one at a time, checking them off as they're completed. Give priority to the most important ones and do those first.


Must you always be right? Do other people upset you - particularly when they don't do things your way? Try cooperation instead of confrontation; it's better than fighting and always being "right." A little give and take on both sides will reduce the strain and make you both feel more comfortable.


It's OK to cry. A good cry can be a healthy way to bring relief to your anxiety, and it might even prevent a headache or other physical consequence. Take some deep breaths; they also release tension.


Create a quiet scene. You can't always get away, but you can "dream the impossible dream." A quiet country scene, painted mentally or on canvas, can take you out of the turmoil of a stressful situation. Change the scene by reading a good book or playing beautiful music to create a sense of peace and tranquillity.


Avoid self-medication. Although you can use drugs to relieve stress temporarily, drugs do not remove the conditions that caused the stress in the first place. Drugs, in fact, may be habit-forming and create more stress than they relieve. They should be taken only on the advice of your doctor.


The best strategy for avoiding stress is to learn how to relax. Unfortunately, many people try to relax at the same pace that they lead the rest of their lives. For a while, tune out your worries about time, productivity, and "doing it right." You will find satisfaction in just being, without striving. Find activities that give you pleasure and that are good for your mental and physical well-being. Forget about always winning and focus on relaxation, enjoyment, and health. Be good to yourself.

Answer 4

It's time to take a short break away from the same old routine and scenary. Try going to France or somewhere not too expensive, sit and watch other people rushing around, perhaps take a good friend along.

Just take time to be yourself again.

Good luck :-)

Answer 5

View: www.relax7.com/7.php and the links and techniques to be found in the blog of Shan Eris at www.myspace.com (http://www.myspace.com/7087317) and also enter those terms separately in the bar near the top of the homepage for that website. Also try the controlled breathing techniques in the blog of CLICKHEREx at Yahoo 360, and go to the medical or psychology section of your local library and read recent books on those subjects. You can still go to a doctor, take the prescription and advice, but don't have it filled.

Answer 6

Please check WEBMD.com
I am no doctor but have been around the block and hold my PhD from the school of hard knocks hahahah
What you are describing are classic symptoms of what the call G.A.D.
General Aniexty Disorder
There are several coping mechism minus medications that can surely help you!
What you learned phobias and fears you can unlearn GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

iam really sorry about about dis,i know how it feels i am going througfh the same thing. i have not yet got solution but music does it for me most of time. good luck

Answer 8

read joyce meyers book the confidant woman she is great and help me alot. www.joycemeyer.org try to relax do something you enjoy, and you will feel better.

Answer 9

*As we approach the stressors in our life with an optimistic attitude, it will help us a great deal to deal effectively with stress, anger, depression, anxieties, etc. The main way I deal with stress, anger, etc. is I take 15 min. early in the morning, and 15 min. in the evening to practice a simple meditation called the mindfulness of breathing. [I also practice Analytical meditation for 15 min. a day; spoken of later].
Mindfulness of Breathing exercises:
1) Be in a comfortable position, whether sitting
or lying down.
2) Have someone watch your other children for
about 15 min. [Increase in time gradually, after practicing for a month].
Then close your eyes, and concentrate
totally on your breathing.
3) At the end of your first inhalation of oxygen,
count one. Keep doing this until you get to
ten. Remain patient with yourself.
4) Then focus your attention on breathing only
through your nostrils, which filter out all
the things, which are not healthy to breath
into your lungs. Be aware of the various
sensations through your nostrils, while you
continue the counting. When you get to
ten, start again at one.
5) When a distracting thoughts enters your mind
allow them to pass through {your mind], or judging them, or trying to fix them.
And then gently, patiently bring your full
attention back to your breath. Every time,
a distracting thought {any thought which
would take your attention of your breath),
comes to your mind, you need to use this
skillful, disciplinary method of bring it back.
Thoughts do come into our minds, especially
worrisome , or pressing thoughts
which indicate to us that we have an anxious mind.
Just be patient w/yourself, and keep practicing.
**"There is proven evidence of the
Success of The Mindfulness of Breathing
Exercises Proven by Dr. Jon Kabat-ZinnPhD
Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn PhD. has a book
out called, "Coming to Our Senses' which
teaches this. *There is also a book called, " The
Beginner's Guide to Insight Meditation"
by: Arinna Weisman & Jean Smith which is most
Excellent also.*” The Mindfulness of Breathing
greatly help us to clearly see things as they really are, in order to act and react in a healthy manner toward people, and situations in life.
I practice mindfulness of breathing to reduce stress and anger, and to cultivate Patience. I really enjoy the practice of mindfulness of breathing exercises. In Dr. Jon Kabat-Zinn's clinic in Mass. he teaches the mindfulness of breathing to his patients to help them reduce pain, stress, anxiety, anger, depression, and worry. Many people establish the practice of mindfulness, as a way of life for themselves. For some, who are very Analytical, and might have a difficult time calming down their mind, "analytical meditation" is probably geared more for them. This method of meditation is excellent for effectively dealing with pain, stress, & anger. Training in Patience: The meditation of observing our stress and anger involves paying close attention to the storyline behind stress and anger. We note the blood rushing to our head, our heart pounding, the emotional pain of hurt feelings, disappointment, & unfulfilled expectations. Simply observing these, “but Not reacting to them by clinging to them or pushing them away, we experience them as they are in the present. In doing so, we watch them arise And Cease in their own accord.” Mindfulness is very effective in letting go of Negative emotions. “Techniques in which we re-frame the situation constitute most of this volume, and they fall in the category of 'Analytical meditation, in which we investigate our thoughts, feeling, and perceptions to discern if they are accurate and beneficial. Changing the way we describe and interpret situations subdue stress, pain, anger because we stop exaggerating and projecting negativities onto people, situations, and objects.' In this way, the external event, its meaning, & our position in it appear to us differently, and our stress and anger evaporates.” Meditation on love and compassion{loving-kindness meditation], (which many do as form of walking meditation) strengthens these positive thoughts and emotions in our minds and hearts, which are beneficial because these thoughts and emotions act not only as antidotes to stress and anger, but also as measures preventing them from arising. So for some, mindfully observing their Thoughts and emotions allow stress and anger to subdue naturally, while for others, a more Analytical approach is necessary. Through investigation{introspection), we see clearly that stress and anger are states of mind that misapprehends their object {either the person or the situation). But remember, subduing stress & anger, to cultivate Patience properly is a slow and steady process. Don’t expect them to always disappear overnight. Reacting stressfully and in anger are deeply ingrained habits, & like all habits, it takes time to unlearn. Practice Meditating daily. (Think about this, who really gives us the best opportunity to demonstrate patience, compassion, and tolerance? Not our friends, because they are nice to us. It is our enemies. Through having an optimistic attitude, we can clearly see that it is our enemies which help us that infinitely beneficial, wholesome quality of Patience. It is those who harm and offend us that actually give us excellent opportunities to cultivate Patience). “Meditation greatly helps us deal effectively with stress, and anger – to cultivate Patience and tolerance, resulting in Peace of Mind.
This “Patience” is the ability to remain internally calm, and undisturbed in the face of harm or difficulties. Through the situations in life which we are faced with, patience and wisdom are cultivated and stress-energy w/in us, and the anger-energy within us are slowly dissolved, resulting in peace of mind.*
Thank You for Your Excellent Question, Remain Optimistic. The world needs more people like you, who have a positive optimistic attitude in Life. I encourage you to daily practice the mindfulness of breathing!*