A few months ago i saw my Dr about my contraceptive pill and he asked me if I wanted to start a family I should really hurry up and start as I'm getting too old.
I was a bit gobsmacked as I'm only 35 and although my partner and I want to have children it is not financially possible yet as he has been out of work for a while due to illness.
We hope to be able to have a family within the next 2-5 years but do you think i'm too old???????
2007-02-15 01:03:46 · 41 answers · asked by vickiesox 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
When you go throug the menopause
2007-02-15 01:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
For a woman to have her first child past the age of 30, the chances of infertility rise. After 35 more so and then of course there are risks of birth defects.
So yes, your doctor is correct, you are already at an age when women have difficulties conceiving, pregnancy complications and with birth defects.
If you wait too much longer for the right financial status, the right this or that, it will be the wrong time to have a baby.
You may not be too old, and people have certainly become first time mothers at 35, but just know the risks are much higher.
I wouldn't want my missus to wait until she was 40 to have my child. Both for her and the baby.
2007-02-18 01:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by Faceless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rubbish my neighbour had a child naturally at 50, I would say 50 is a good time. All my friends are now about the 40 mark most of them have not had children and are wanting to start their families in their forties once they are established and have had a life first. In the next ten years scientists predict that the average women will be starting her family in her fifties. We are living longer healthier lives and we need longer fertile years. You are only a child at 35, nearly everyday you hear of another woman having a child in her sixties, in the future women will naturally be able to have children in their sixties, when the abolition of the menopause happens.
My best friend turned forty two last year, she got married had a very healthy baby girl and also a christening all in one year. My mother was 40 when I was born, and she conceived straight away. I know plenty of people who have had children well into their forties naturally.
No you can put off having your family until you are well into your forties, in most cases it will be OK. In the future you maybe able to have a child naturally in your fifties and beyond.
Scientist are working on ways to stop the menopause from happening and to even reverse the whole thing.
I should know I did for my dissertation for my MA, on the abolition of the menopause.
2007-02-17 12:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by mellouckili 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will most likely not go through menopause before the age of 40. On the other hand, the longer you wait, it might take longer for you to conceive and you risk an increased chance of birth defects and problems. I know a woman who got pregnant immediately after stopping the pill at age 38 and carried to term with no problems whatsoever. I also know a woman who conceived at 35 and had a ton of troubles, which the doctors attributed to her "advanced maternal age." In a nutshell, the longer you wait, the bigger risk you're taking, but there's always the chance everything will work out perfectly.
2007-02-15 01:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, when i was 35 and a smoker my G.P. took me off the pill. I got divorced at 37 and re married at 41. I am now 46 with a 4 year old and a 23 month old. You can buy those rather expensive kits to find out how much time you have left if you like, but my advice is just enjoy each other as you don't know what the future holds.
2007-02-15 05:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by thalia_marks'swife 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
they said that because fertility drops after the age of 35 and the risk of complications for the pregnancy and higher risk of birth defects. Having said that I had a baby at 36 and we are going to try for another later in the year.
Many women have child en in their 40's!
I must also add that no time will ever be right to have a baby financially - have you looked into what benefits you would be entitled to? Would your partner physically be able to look after a baby if so maybe he could be a stay at home dad while you worked?
What ever you decide do what is best for you, hopefully you have many childbearing years ahead of you!
2007-02-15 01:29:52 · answer #6 · answered by lovelylittlemoo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, a woman I used to work with had her first child at 43, planned and everything. As long as you are fit and healthy you can have children until you are menopausal. The risk of disability is increased with age though, that might be what you doctor meant. From 35 you eggs will start to deteriorate even though you may still be menstruating and these carried an increased risk of Downs Syndrome and other chromosonal disorders.
2007-02-15 01:27:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ria K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not too old, the main medical concern is that after the age of 35, your fertility levels start to drop quite signicantly. There are also increased risks of chromosomal abnormalities occuring in a baby ( Down's syndrome for example ). However, if it's not the right time for you and your partner to start a family now, then that's the main priority - don't feel pressurised into having kids before you're ready!
2007-02-15 01:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your doctor should have been slapped. But lets talk about it.
There is never a time when you are finiancial ready to have a child. And if you have problems concieving you really need to know that early enough to have time to fix it. And as a mom who had a baby at 40 I am friggen tired and wish I could have had her earlier. But due to problems I lost 4 children inbetween. The economy is not going to get better in 2-5 years. If your maternial instinct is there then you should do it now I say. It will work out. you will be ok and you will manage.
2007-02-15 01:13:04 · answer #9 · answered by Shelly t 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you aren't too old at all. I think the doctor said that because after 35 eggs quality declines dramatically, and downs syndrome and other defects are more common.
On the plus side, multiple births are more common in women over 35, so you could have a litter of 3 or 4 and get it all out the way in one go, ta daaaaaaaaa instant family, just add stretch marks!
2007-02-15 01:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
35 is considered advanced maternal age. Too old depends on your body (menopause) or your views. You have to think about steps in your children's lives that they need parents and if you wait to long you might not be there. Father walking his daughter down the isle. Having there first baby needing there mother. Graduations, ect... Just think about that. Children are as expensive as you make them. Material things come in all different ranges and I am sure you could get used things for cheaper. Getting pregnant is hard and the older you are the harder it is.
2007-02-15 01:21:39 · answer #11 · answered by jess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋