in a couple of days I was supposed to go to Germany BY MYSELF. That was the whole excitement of it, that I was going all on my own. No mom, no brother, JUST ME. I was so excited that I couldn't help jumping up and down every day.
Then today my mom dropped a HUGE bomb on me. She said that our friends from Germany send her a ticket!! That means she wants to go with me!
I got really upset and started crying (this was on the phone, she couldn't tell) because I HATE going places with my mom. She always has to be the center of attention and I just hate it.
I really liked the idea of going by myself cause I was sick of my whole family and wanted to get away.
Now my mom tells me she's going with me!
Do you think I have the right to be upset?
2007-02-15 00:38:03 · 14 answers · asked by beliieve 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
To the person who said I'll regret it:
I know what if feels like to be away from my mom for a long time, and I do miss her sometimes, BUT I HAVE HAD WAY TOO MUCH OF HER.
And also, i forgot to add that she already went to Germany 2 weeks ago.
2007-02-15 00:42:51 · update #1
Yes, I would be upset too.
Can you talk to her about it?
2007-02-15 00:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Simply_Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have every right. One of the best things i ever did for myself in my life was go to Europe alone. Just walking down a street alone, enjoying the sights- being independent was the best. I've lived in Germany also. You would have been safe and fine, people speak english in big cites and practically all young people do. Your mom was wrong, when you get there, take a train and veer off on your own. She invited herself and tried to ruin your good time, but guess what--she doesn't have to; go off on your own, and leave her with those friends. My 'mommie dearest' was the exact same way. Self absorbed and everything was about her--too controlling.You need your own experiences which she has no part in. Don't fall for 'she won't always be with you' that isn't the point.
2007-02-15 09:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Can you do it together part of the time? Travel to Germany together but pan a mini trip on your own? Take a train out of town to sight-see alone for a day or 2? It sounds like you are a young person and may even be a bit relieved in one sense. just back up your ipod with lots of music! Can you get a student pass and do the youth hostel thing?
2007-02-15 08:46:05 · answer #3 · answered by monkey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you shouldn't be upset. You're getting a free trip to Germany either way. Be mature about it. Just tell her this: "Mom, it's really great that you get to go to Germany too. I was really excited about the adventure of going by myself, though. Do you think that when we're there I might be able to do some things on my own with [whoever you are visiting]?"
That way you don't insult your mother or upset her, and she'll see it as reasonable and you'll get some time to yourself.
2007-02-15 08:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, make the very best of the situation. One day your mom won't be around to travel with you and you will cherish the memories made with her on your trip to Germany. Do take some time by yourself on this trip to enjoy a day or two solo. Make certain that you share some laughs, good conversation and take pictures. Germany is AWESOME. You will have plenty of time to travel there solo if you choose. Have a great trip! Do try to make it to Oberamagau (spelling probably not correct). This town in itselfs will provide you with many memories!
2007-02-15 08:44:21 · answer #5 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a right to be upset. Unfortunately you will have to make the most of this situation or your trip will be ruined. I feel for you. But a lot of times what we think will only be a bad experience turns out to be surprisingly good. Stay optimistic and best wishes for a safe and happy trip!
2007-02-15 08:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by NC Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her she is not going with you. Yes, you have a right to be upset and you are not being selfish by being upset. If she still insists on going, tell her you can fly over together but that is as far as that goes. Separate hotels (or whereever you will be staying) and each of you goes your own way, does your own thing. Then, if you change your mind, you can have dinner together one night.
2007-02-15 09:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyhing happening is fast, let thinking you will be mother soon, and got doughther as like you, because she much love you and thinking you always like children and never leave me alone forever. Younger always don't understand the older because skip of past. Everything can solve with peace and understanding.
2007-02-15 08:45:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nikko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your gonna regret that when shes not around. Yeah right now it sucks, but you should value that time with her, it slips away too fast.
2007-02-15 08:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by ashleynicole452 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound like a selfish little girl who is stamping her feet having a tantrum good god how will you feel if she wasn't there at all or took no interest in you grow up x
2007-02-15 08:57:45 · answer #10 · answered by andrea.barrett36 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋